Mom said my SIL is a better daughter than I will ever be.

[Anonymous]

Mom is drunk as always and said that just now. Sad thing is that I'm numb to years of her abuse and it took me an hour to actually cry about it and feel anything. It's just normal for her to be hateful. She's done so many awful things over the years and won't stop drinking. I think I'm finally done.

[Anonymous]

Close that door. Don't look back.

[Anonymous]

I know the feeling. My mom (not drunk) told me that morning that I am immoral, but declined to specify why.

[Anonymous]

Ooh. No contact. No explanation. She does not deserve anything from you.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. She's a broken person. What she said is a reflection on her, not you.

Hugs.

[Anonymous]

My mom says all kind of shit to me but she doesn't drink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Ooh. No contact. No explanation. She does not deserve anything from you.

This. I would not let her around me any more.

[Anonymous]

Next time OP, no tears at all. She cannot hurt you anymore. You are grown and see her for who she is, a sick person.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like my sister who I cut off about six years ago. No regrets.

[Anonymous]

Walk away, OP. Definitely protect your kids from her poison. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom says all kind of shit to me but she doesn't drink.

Same here!

[Anonymous]

Just walk away, OP. Tell her you only want to speak with her when she's not drunk, and tell her you will not visit her unless she is not drinking.

I would not cut her off completely. She's your mom, OP. She has a problem. Don't feel sorry for her or let her walk all over you, but set the boundaries and stick to them. She'll deal with it if she wants to. If not, then you're protecting yourself.

Sorry, OP. Very disappointing to have such an irresponsible mom. Take care of yourself, and know you do better with your own kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, my heart goes out to you. Know this: You deserve a mother to love you and protect you. You deserve to be able to turn to her and rest in her arms when times get hard. You deserve better than what you got.

It's normal that you still cry when she hurts you. It's easy to say don't cry but it's hard to do; the loss of a mother's love through rejection or emotional abandonment is something impossible to fully comprehend unless you have lived it. You are holding onto hope that one day something miraculous will happen to make her turn into the mother you dream about. You have to let that dream go and accept you got a bum deal. The hand you were dealt is not the one you wanted and you didn't do anything to deserve it. But it is your reality. When you let go of hoping for a different mother and start dealing with reality you will know what to do.

I had to let my own mother go. I will love and miss her until the day I die but I have never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Close that door. Don't look back.

+1! It's more than just one incident. Go to Alanon if want, but you're Mom's not only alcoholic, she's abusive. Talk to your DH, he'd probably agree.

[Anonymous]

OP here- Thanks so much for all the replies. I grew up without a Dad and besides my brother she's all I really have. It just sucks being hated for no good reason. My crime? I have to work this weekend and can't go home for Memorial Day.