my son is addicted to clash of clans

[Anonymous]

It drives me nuts-- but he is only 10 and is getting good grades and overall is still a good kid, but I feel like he would spend hours on it every day if I didn't restrict it. Part of me thinks I should just let it go and not restrict it as long as he is getting work down etc. Like it is actually beneficial for him to learn to limit his time without me forcing it on him. I recall that my parents were very strict about computer game time-- which was great in the sense that I instead read a lot of books-- but maybe not so good because when I went to college I became totally immersed by "free cell" and unable to see the addiction for what it was.

So I'm struggling-- do I do nothing and trust that he will come around on his own-- and better to learn this lesson early rather than late in life? Or do I tell him that he has to establish a limit and I will impose consequencies if he goes beyond it? I'm leaning towards the second, with a generous dose of redirecting him towards other things in life beyond clash of clans.

[Anonymous]

Since he is 10, I think it is appropriate to restrict it.

[Anonymous]

How much time are we talking about?

It's much easier to impose other activities than to restrict usage...which can lead to forbidden fruit syndrome. Instead of fussing at him to get off the game, give him something else to do. Add an after school activity, required outside play time, etc.

[Anonymous]

My husband is addicted to clash of clans. I can't stand it anymore.

[Anonymous]

DCs, 7 and 9 yrs and Dh are all addicted to Clash of Clans and Injustice.

[Anonymous]

I let my son play for hours on the weekend IF he has done all of his weekly chores without being reminded. Once they are finished (it is amazing how fast a 9 yr old boy moves on Saturday morning when he is properly motivated , he can play all morning long.

[Anonymous]

Let him do his thing, OP. At least when he's a teenager, you won't have to worry about him knocking anyone up.

[Anonymous]

Aren't all of you worries about all the time spent staring at a screen! It depresses me to think of these boys sitting on their butts all day for hours on end. Even I'd they do get good grades, have done chores, are good kids, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren't all of you worries about all the time spent staring at a screen! It depresses me to think of these boys sitting on their butts all day for hours on end. Even I'd they do get good grades, have done chores, are good kids, etc.

My son spends 20 hours a week on his sport and volunteering. His free time is his to use as he chooses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since he is 10, I think it is appropriate to restrict it.

Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

My 13 yo son was addicted to it too but it ran its course and now he is back to loud music while he throws his lacrosse ball against the bounce back. He went through an
X box faze too. It worked for us to let it run its course so long as it didn't interfere with homework.

[Anonymous]

You have to set limits.

My kids get screen time---but they have to get their asses outside and exercise---shoot hoops, run, play games with their friends, beat their brother with a wiffle ball bat, etc...for a good amount of time.

They also have to complete homework. I much prefer active toys. I got my 9 year old back into Legos.

The more time you give them with screens, the more dependent they become.

My 6-year old has a couple friends that only, ONLY talk about Clash of Clans---even during the middle of a g-damn soccer game. I limit the amount of playdates with them. I notice my kid will go up to school playground and run hard and play on the playground, basketball court and these kids will only stay 5 minutes and whine to their mom to go home and play CoC.

I am not having that sh*t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let him do his thing, OP. At least when he's a teenager, you won't have to worry about him knocking anyone up.

Sager words have rarely been typed. He'll just be looking at porn on his tablet and ejaculating into a hanky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It drives me nuts-- but he is only 10 and is getting good grades and overall is still a good kid, but I feel like he would spend hours on it every day if I didn't restrict it. Part of me thinks I should just let it go and not restrict it as long as he is getting work down etc. Like it is actually beneficial for him to learn to limit his time without me forcing it on him. I recall that my parents were very strict about computer game time-- which was great in the sense that I instead read a lot of books-- but maybe not so good because when I went to college I became totally immersed by "free cell" and unable to see the addiction for what it was.

So I'm struggling-- do I do nothing and trust that he will come around on his own-- and better to learn this lesson early rather than late in life? Or do I tell him that he has to establish a limit and I will impose consequencies if he goes beyond it? I'm leaning towards the second, with a generous dose of redirecting him towards other things in life beyond clash of clans.

You are doing a disservice to him if you don't restrict it. The longer you go the harder it will be to later provide restrictions. Your first line says it all: It is driving you nuts. You are NOT feeling neutral about it - so why are you acting that way?

[Anonymous]

Look if whant advice why not ask him yeah if anything we teens and kids hate being talked about and stuff so sit him down and talk to him im sure he will redpect that but the more you say he cant go on it the more he will want to go on it