Tell me about Wellesley
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Anonymous
| It's on my daughter's list, but not sure if it's a good fit. What is the vibe like on campus? She's not necessarily preppy, but also not 'edgy' at all - a pretty conventional kid. Interested in majoring in international relations, or maybe economics. Are there opportunities to socialize with guys? She's at an all-girls school now and I'm a little nervous she'll never learn to work/collaborate with men. What would a family with a HHI of about $180k be expected to contribute? |
Anonymous
| I can't answer your question. Just came in to recommend a campus visit. That's really where all of your questions will be answered. And DD gets to 'feel out' the campus in a very real and legitimate way. |
Anonymous
We have limited time and cannot view every. single. campus. that intrigues her. I asked to get information so that we can decide if we do want to go up to Boston and look. While I realize some people can do dozens of college visits that require overnight stays and 8+ hour drives, we don't really have that luxury. Thus, my question. |
Anonymous
Thanks, PP!! |
Anonymous
I understand completely. In fact, my family visited some campuses before deciding to apply, but when that became too much (it wears on you), we decided to simply submit applications and visit top contenders IF DC was accepted. That said, I still think even a virtual tour on the school's website (and the numerous youtube videos) will be more helpful and closer to truth than some of the replies you'll receive here. We just wrapped up the application process, and I've been stunned at the disparities between what is said on here and what we've experienced through actual visits. |
Anonymous
Does she have brothers? I grew up with all sisters and went to an all girls junior and high school. Coed college, but still feel I'm not great at working with men. I work really well women most women but I'm a little socially awkward around male coworkers. Dating, fine, bc we did that. But I would recommend coed college unless she already has brothers and/or is good at having guy friends. |
Anonymous
No brothers. Sister who's 5 years younger. A few guy friends, but none she's particularly close to...though she did have a boyfriend for 1.5 year. She thinks she's hopelessly awkward around guys. Thanks for the thoughts. That's my concern. She really likes her school now, but I want her to get out of her comfort zone a bit in college... |
Anonymous
Definitely take your individual kid's situation into account. In my case I have a brother that I've always been extremely close to, and we moved around a lot as kids so I never developed deep female friendships. Now I do have a few close female friends but in casual social situations/in the office I'm much more comfortable around guys. I work in a male-dominated field so it doesn't hurt me professionally, but it's definitely a social deficit. I would probably have been well-served by going to an all female college to learn how to not be awkward around women. |
Anonymous
| I'm an alumna and I don't think a women's college is right for everyone but for those who make the decision I think its a great place to go. There are usually a few men around but they obviously don't dominate. The school doesn't follow the men's sports teams. There is less focus on drinking and more on talking. The career network is wonderful. There are lots of parties at Harvard, BU, MIT, Babson, Tufts, etc. where you can meet men if you want, but enough to do on campus to make it ok to stay there all weekend too. |
Anonymous
+1. We have added Wellesley to our list to at least check it out. |
Anonymous
| I have the same thoughts for my D. I think the academics, location, and less of a party living environment would be great for my D. On the other hand I think not having guys around on a daily basis so they could form friendships and work together on projects for school would be a big negative. Always having to go off campus to seek guys out in a party scene would not be for my D. It would be the perfect LAC if it were coed. Such a beautiful location! |
Anonymous
| Since at least 5% of girls graduating from high school are gay, we shouldn't assume that the absence of male students is a negative factor or even a concern for all those considering Wellesley. |
Anonymous
Why because they will marry well and never have to work with men? |
Anonymous
Maybe they are pursuit something other than a MRS degree. College is not exactly the ideal place for learning to "work with men" unless you are planning on a career as an exotic dancer. |