Do you love a person if you feel jealousy instead of betrayal?

[Anonymous]

Let's say your partner cheated on you, but you don't feel betrayed but jealous and angry. Do you love that person?

[Anonymous]

I am not sure I understand the question. You can be in love with an unfaithful partner and feel a million different things when you find out. Betrayal, jealousy, anger, sadness, pain, surprise, murderous thoughts, grief, you name it...
I guess if you did not love him/her then you wouldn't care much. Maybe then you would feel indifference or relief.

[Anonymous]

If you didn't love them, you'd feel various negative emotions, but maybe you'd also feel pretty clear that you wanted to leave them. When I was betrayed I felt hurt, angry, jealous, made a fool of, betrayed, etc, but I still didn't want to lose that person. I even felt compassion at times for their pain at having hurt me. (They worked very hard to make it up to me and were very remorseful.) Either I'm a suckah or I loved that person. Or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't love them, you'd feel various negative emotions, but maybe you'd also feel pretty clear that you wanted to leave them. When I was betrayed I felt hurt, angry, jealous, made a fool of, betrayed, etc, but I still didn't want to lose that person. I even felt compassion at times for their pain at having hurt me. (They worked very hard to make it up to me and were very remorseful.) Either I'm a suckah or I loved that person. Or both.

Doormat.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. Jealousy may come from feeling possessive or entitled to that person's attention. Jealousy doesn't have to be borne out of love. And you can truly love someone and not feel jealousy.