Please stop asking me if my child got into AAP...

[Anonymous]

There is a lot of AAP craziness at my child's school. It has a local level IV program. Anyway, my child has always been in the pull-outs and top reading/math/whatever group and did not get into AAP. Because of all the craziness, a number of parents have asked me if my child got in (these are mostly parents whose children have been in with my child all along, did get into AAP and probably think it is not a strange question). My child's scores were not spectacular (including GBRS), but it does sting given that my child has been performing strongly all along.

Anyone have any constructive, non snarky advice on (1) what to tell my child regarding the fact that most of his peers are going to be in AAP next year and (2) how to gracefully deal with all the asking-parents? I think I am too close to the issue right now to be able to come up with the ideal way to handle.

[Anonymous]

1) Most kids find out their teacher a few days before school and nothing final until the summer so not sure if this needs to addressed today 2) You tell them your child isn't in the pool but you're pleased w/ their progress and will have friends in multiple classes next year no doubt

[Anonymous]

I always wanted to know (there's no good way to find out) because I wanted to do whatever I could, especially over the summer, to strengthen my children's friendships with kids they would have as classmates next year - in non AAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot of AAP craziness at my child's school. It has a local level IV program. Anyway, my child has always been in the pull-outs and top reading/math/whatever group and did not get into AAP. Because of all the craziness, a number of parents have asked me if my child got in (these are mostly parents whose children have been in with my child all along, did get into AAP and probably think it is not a strange question). My child's scores were not spectacular (including GBRS), but it does sting given that my child has been performing strongly all along.

Anyone have any constructive, non snarky advice on (1) what to tell my child regarding the fact that most of his peers are going to be in AAP next year and (2) how to gracefully deal with all the asking-parents? I think I am too close to the issue right now to be able to come up with the ideal way to handle.

are you Asian?

[Anonymous]

And yet people get pissed if a child already in a center school goes to AAP orientation-which is the most discrete way to figure this stuff out without embarrassing or offending anyone!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a lot of AAP craziness at my child's school. It has a local level IV program. Anyway, my child has always been in the pull-outs and top reading/math/whatever group and did not get into AAP. Because of all the craziness, a number of parents have asked me if my child got in (these are mostly parents whose children have been in with my child all along, did get into AAP and probably think it is not a strange question). My child's scores were not spectacular (including GBRS), but it does sting given that my child has been performing strongly all along.

Anyone have any constructive, non snarky advice on (1) what to tell my child regarding the fact that most of his peers are going to be in AAP next year and (2) how to gracefully deal with all the asking-parents? I think I am too close to the issue right now to be able to come up with the ideal way to handle.

Are you going to appeal? Sounds like you should consider it!

[Anonymous]

to deal with the stinging and I get it. I would leave the door open that you might have opted out with the way you repsond. so instead of, he didn't get in, something like, oh he won't be going to the center. then give them a strong, "it's unbelievable to me how much people talk/ask about this. I think it should be a private matter who is in and what choices people make for their kids. something to shut them up. likely they are asking in many cases b/c their kid did and they want to bask in it more and feel good. really annoying...

[Anonymous]

Op here, thanks. This is local level IV so it is not the case that people find out last minute or go off to a center. We can't appeal despite the high performance because the scores are rather low. My problem is more the parents and kids who talk about it incessantly and with no awareness of their audience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, thanks. This is local level IV so it is not the case that people find out last minute or go off to a center. We can't appeal despite the high performance because the scores are rather low. My problem is more the parents and kids who talk about it incessantly and with no awareness of their audience.

Why don't you appeal anyway? I know someone who's child had lower CoGAT scores they applied for the child, didn't get in, then they appealed and the child got in.

Get a WISC, if you can.

[Anonymous]

If the schools and parents didn't make such a big deal about it the children would just think they got in different classes. The whole program and process is really messed up. If you are worried about your child's social peers I would appeal and/or appeal to be moved out of a center school or move to a district without center. It is all about your kid and their success forget about the others. You could always say you are opting out of center. Nosey's don't deserve to know the truth and would not find out unless you tell someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the schools and parents didn't make such a big deal about it the children would just think they got in different classes. The whole program and process is really messed up. If you are worried about your child's social peers I would appeal and/or appeal to be moved out of a center school or move to a district without center. It is all about your kid and their success forget about the others. You could always say you are opting out of center. Nosey's don't deserve to know the truth and would not find out unless you tell someone.

and for that matter you really should sat anything to your child either just tell him/her you do not know yet and it really doesn't matter they will be fine where ever they are placed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And yet people get pissed if a child already in a center school goes to AAP orientation-which is the most discrete way to figure this stuff out without embarrassing or offending anyone!!

I'm going to my child's orientation at our base school which is a center but my child is not coming since there is no need for them to be there. All kids find out who their teachers are a few days before school starts anyway. There is no need for any special treatment for them to meet a teacher this month who might not even be at the school in September. My best advice for OP would to try to keep your child involved in the same extra curricular activities as they are now. They will keep those friendships. Even starting an additional activity(If time permits) will open up the door for new friendships.

[Anonymous]

If it is Lliv, your child may be placed in the class and at some point may be eligible if u reapply. I would be vague and wait until the class list comes out. Our school which has LLiv does not have principal designees for the last couple years but the 5th and 6th grade does.

[Anonymous]

There were a couple of families I was surprised not to see at the AAP orientations. I'm hoping they either just didn't come or appeal and get their children into the program at some point because I think their kids would do well in it.

[Anonymous]

Why not get the WISC just to see what it is? If it is high enough, then you can appeal.