in love with a client ?

[Anonymous]

long infatuation, a few years

things have started to get a little more heated

it is getting harder to avoid, the attraction, the chemistry

losing my strength to say no, losing the desire to say no

both are married, have young children and friends in common.

he cheats on his wife, and there are other women. i am not interested in being one of them, but sometimes, i think it would be more fun here and there than the boredom of my own marriage.

i know it makes no sense, does it ever? looking for advice.

[Anonymous]

You will regret it if you stray.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
he cheats on his wife, and there are other women.

There you have it. You are nothing special to him - just another notch in his belt. Do you have that little value in your own worth? Steer clear of the toad.

[Anonymous]

just realized i probably posted this in the wrong forum. apologies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
he cheats on his wife, and there are other women.

There you have it. You are nothing special to him - just another notch in his belt. Do you have that little value in your own worth? Steer clear of the toad.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Stds are forever....

[Anonymous]

Some men are charming. Very charming. Can make you feel fluttery from the attention. But that's how they are with everyone. Their identity is the charmer and they it's a way of life. Do not be taken in. The brief thrill will not be worth the longterm fallout.

[Anonymous]

What kind of client are we talking about? Are you a therapist/attorney/some other kind of professional or is he a client in the sense that customers of a hair stylist are now referred to as clients?

If it's the former, the bad consequences that result from a dalliance with him extend to professional sanctions, as well. If it's the latter, not so much, just family issues.

[Anonymous]

A friend had an affair with a married man (whose DW was pregnant with first child). Friend ended up with VD. The man had other women in his life. He gave her the VD from these other women. Just keep this in mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend had an affair with a married man (whose DW was pregnant with first child). Friend ended up with VD. The man had other women in his life. He gave her the VD from these other women. Just keep this in mind.

Who's to say he didn't give the other women the VD? Isn't he the common denominator?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of client are we talking about? Are you a therapist/attorney/some other kind of professional or is he a client in the sense that customers of a hair stylist are now referred to as clients?

If it's the former, the bad consequences that result from a dalliance with him extend to professional sanctions, as well. If it's the latter, not so much, just family issues.

Um, plus 1000. OP, you could basically ruin your entire life if you are a therapist or attorney. No career, no marriage, you'd probably lose a bunch of friends too. Not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Act like a sensible grown up, not a myopic adolescent.

[Anonymous]

OP - you're pathetic

[Anonymous]

OP- go for it as long as you're willing to risk your marriage and career.