SIL ignores our baby
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Anonymous
| My husband and I used to live nearby my SIL, but we had very little contact with her. When my husband had cancer, she visited him only twice, despite the fact that he was in the hospital for months, and the hospital was only 15 minutes from her apt. When my son was born, she saw him only 3 or 4 times in a year, but pretended to my in-laws that she was there constantly. We moved away and my husband invited her and her husband to our new house since their parents were visiting. They came, and both my SIL and BIL did their best to not lift a finger during their visit despite the fact that I was nearly 9 months pregnant and my husband was busy with our toddler. When our daughter was born a few months later, they did NOTHING. She did not send a card, email, or even bother to call. I don't think about her often, but my MIL is visiting for a week (this will be the first time she sees her own granddaughter even though she is nearly four months old). My husband's family is selfish all around, but my SIL is the most selfish of them all. My MIL asked if my SIL and her husband could visit us at the same time (of course staying at our house again). I just don't want to see her, especially since the house will be full with my MIL (who is also super self-absorbed). I told her no, saying that I had my hands full with the newborn. She is not visiting now, and my MIL is blaming me, despite the fact that everyone knows how selfish SIL & her husband can be. I don't care that I'm being blamed for SIL not coming, but my husband thinks I should have her here despite everything. I'm standing firm on my no though. |
Anonymous
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You sound overly critical of your sister in law.
But if you have a newborn, you absolutely have the right to say no to hosting guests in your home. |
Anonymous
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Sounds like SIL and MIL aren't the only ones who are super-self-absorbed.
Trust me, no one is ever going to be as fascinated with your kids as you. |
Anonymous
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SIL has her own life. She is not that into yours.
Get over yourself. |
Anonymous
| Why do you expect her to change now that you have kids? |
Anonymous
| What did you expect the sister in law to do for you when you were pregnant? Your husband could handle your toddler. I hope you didn't expect them to do much more than strip their beds and clean up their own dishes. Just bc you are pregnant doesn't mean your in laws should be doing your chores. |
Anonymous
| Geez Op how did you fit a baby in there with your head so far up your a**? |
Anonymous
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What's your point?
Clearly your SIL doesn't like you, and isn't interested in your kids. Move on. |
Anonymous
| You sound selfish. Not everyone wants to see your kids. Maybe your SIL is having fertility issues. I think it's selfish that you would deny a mini family reunion bc you don't like your in-laws. You sound like a whiny bitch. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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Have you talked to DH about this?
MIL doesnt get to pout and be a baby either. SIL can always stay at a hotel. |
Anonymous
| None of your SIL's behavior sounds problematic. She doesn't owe you anything because you gave her a niece. But since she is a lazy house guest, you're justified in saying she can't stay with you when you have a newborn - I think only helpful people should be welcome to stay in your home at that time in life. A more polite way of declining the SIL staying with you would have been to say you won't be able to host so many people at once with a newborn, but you're happy to recommend a nearby hotel. |
Anonymous
| Your husband is a beta. |
Anonymous
| You all sound like a nightmare. |
Anonymous
op i get it. she didnt bother being there for you when you needed it, like visiting when dh had cancer and now she wants to be part of some fun family time like shes always been around . i say good for you. although if you DO let her come, she and mil can entertain each other.  get takeout
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