Anyone else never fallen in love?

[Anonymous]

Woman, late twenties. Have had only two boyfriends and that's because I sort of forced myself because I could see, rationally, that they were good guys. My exes are now my friends and we're better off that way. I rarely date (to be honest I don't get out that much) and am rarely attracted to anyone. I think I've had exactly three infatuations in my whole life. Am I weird? Is this normal? Anyone else like me?

[Anonymous]

I've never been in love. I'm 38. I've been infatuated. But never in love.

[Anonymous]

Sad...

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

How can you never fall in love? What exactly is wrong with you??

[Anonymous]

I'm a female, late 20s. I've been in 2 unrequited love situations with other women. I have yet to fall in love with a guy. I haven't dated anyone for longer than 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you never fall in love? What exactly is wrong with you??

It takes 2 people to fall in love. I've fallen in love many times, but they never loved me back long enough to really call it love. Maybe "obsessed over" is a more accurate way to describe it instead of "falling in love". Mid 40s male.

[Anonymous]

Asexual/aromantic is definitely a thing. Google it. You're not alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you never fall in love? What exactly is wrong with you??

Doesn't mean something is wrong with her.

I know people who seem to constantly fall in love, flitting from brief affair to brief affair, with huge emotional losses when it is over. That worries me more in terms of mental health than never falling in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a female, late 20s. I've been in 2 unrequited love situations with other women. I have yet to fall in love with a guy. I haven't dated anyone for longer than 3 months.

Maybe aromantic or demi-romantic.

Or you are a late-bloomer.

[Anonymous]

I could have said that at 28. Then I met my husband at 29.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could have said that at 28. Then I met my husband at 29.

Same here. Part of it was that I never allowed myself to fall be in love. I had a truly horrific childhood and my self protection skills were/are formidable. My father died (best thing that ever happened to me still even after DH and kids) when I was 20 and it took me years to get to the point that I was willing to allow open myself up emotionally to a romantic interest. Sure, I'd had sex, dated, etc. but I'd never let myself be vulnerable before I met DH at 29. We've been together almost 20 years and I've finally healed enough that I know I could, again, open myself up to love with another man. But, I'm happily married. Nice to know I could if I wanted/needed to.

[Anonymous]

Are you picky? I was like you a couple years ago, I'm 27 by the way, because I was so picky. He had to have a certain look, live in a good area, had a certain education, and blah blah blah. Then I realized that I'm pushing 30 and never been in love because I found flaws in all my past men, that may not have been flaws. I met a guy, and he changed my world. I fell in love instantly and he didn't meet ANY of my requirements. We may think we know what we want, but it wasn't what I needed. Open your heart!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a female, late 20s. I've been in 2 unrequited love situations with other women. I have yet to fall in love with a guy. I haven't dated anyone for longer than 3 months.

Maybe aromantic or demi-romantic.

Or you are a late-bloomer.

I'd say a late bloomer.

[Anonymous]

I'm 32 never been in love. I've had 1 long term bf. didn't work because I just didn't live him. I've been in lust but not lately . It takes a lot for me to like people.