Help me tell MIL I hate pie

[Anonymous]

Here's a light one for DCUM: I hate pie (and cobbler and similar fruit-in-a-crust desserts). MIL loves it -- one of her first questions to me when we met, some 8 years ago, was actually "What is your favorite kind of pie?" I told her then, and a few other times early on, that I don't like pie. But I also have picked at it with a smile every time it's served, which is every time we eat with them -- often, weekly -- so she can be forgiven for thinking I like it.

I've decided I'm done: I'm not eating pie anymore. I don't need a different dessert, I just want to abstain without causing a scene or hurt feelings. MIL is one of those people who obsessively asks whether you like something, so a simple "None for me" will get multiple follow up questions.

So, what do I say? And do I say it ahead of the dessert course?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a light one for DCUM: I hate pie (and cobbler and similar fruit-in-a-crust desserts). MIL loves it -- one of her first questions to me when we met, some 8 years ago, was actually "What is your favorite kind of pie?" I told her then, and a few other times early on, that I don't like pie. But I also have picked at it with a smile every time it's served, which is every time we eat with them -- often, weekly -- so she can be forgiven for thinking I like it.

I've decided I'm done: I'm not eating pie anymore. I don't need a different dessert, I just want to abstain without causing a scene or hurt feelings. MIL is one of those people who obsessively asks whether you like something, so a simple "None for me" will get multiple follow up questions.

So, what do I say? And do I say it ahead of the dessert course?

Distract her with, "No thank you but Bill really wants some."

"No thank you but Jane really wants some."

No thank you but can I cut YOU a piece?"

[Anonymous]

"None for me, Barbara. As it turns out, I'm just not such a fan of pie."

[Anonymous]

I can help you if you tell mine I don't like chicken salad.

Which she fixes EVERY TIME WE VISIT.

[Anonymous]

Can you say you're too full for dessert? Every. single. time. If she insists on sending a slice home with you, at least you can give that to someone else in your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can help you if you tell mine I don't like chicken salad.

Which she fixes EVERY TIME WE VISIT.

Maybe you should tell your MIL that you looove it and you'll never be served it again.

I truly think OP's MIL just doesn't get that not everyone one likes pie. I would get along famously with your MIL--I love me some pie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can help you if you tell mine I don't like chicken salad.

Which she fixes EVERY TIME WE VISIT.

LOL. It's a deal.

[Anonymous]

I can't get past the fact that you don't like pie.... Seriously, i't's awesome!!
I don't know, just don't eat what you don't like. I'm a vegetarian and have been for 28+years. My dad still offers me meat at meals. Just decline, this is not hard.

[Anonymous]

Just say you are watching your weight or something. If she serves it to you anyway then just don't eat it. It's a dessert, not a big deal if you don't eat it. She def sounds a little obsessed with the pie though.

[Anonymous]

Omg. I love pie!

[Anonymous]

Say with a smile, "thanks, but pie's not really my thing." Then move the conversation to something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a light one for DCUM: I hate pie (and cobbler and similar fruit-in-a-crust desserts). MIL loves it -- one of her first questions to me when we met, some 8 years ago, was actually "What is your favorite kind of pie?" I told her then, and a few other times early on, that I don't like pie. But I also have picked at it with a smile every time it's served, which is every time we eat with them -- often, weekly -- so she can be forgiven for thinking I like it.

I've decided I'm done: I'm not eating pie anymore. I don't need a different dessert, I just want to abstain without causing a scene or hurt feelings. MIL is one of those people who obsessively asks whether you like something, so a simple "None for me" will get multiple follow up questions.

So, what do I say? And do I say it ahead of the dessert course?

if this is the worst complaint you have about your MIL, i can't even relate. My MIL is a huge PITA, and eating some of her awful food is the least of my worries. i just pretend to eat it when it's truly awful. this doesn't even warrant a posting.

[Anonymous]

Offer to make and bring dessert over some time so she doesn't have to fix one.

[Anonymous]

OP, please don't refuse the pie. Thank her kindly and smuggle it out. You can drop it off at my house on your way home.

[Anonymous]

I understand. My in laws love vanilla ice cream. It's high quality and they all sit around raving about the milk fat content and how creamy it is. Drives me crazy and I think it's the most boring thing ever! Give me some mint chocolate chip any day over their homemade custard shit. Anyways, just say no and keep saying no. It's rude to offer things that's people don't like