dating someone who is separated - is it ok?
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Anonymous
| I am 40 and divorced. Met a man online who is separated. He and ex have been separated since October. They are in the process of filing paperwork for divorce. They live apart and have two children. I like him but is his situation too much of a red flag? |
Anonymous
| I would not date someone who was only separated |
Anonymous
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It sounds like he really is getting divorced. The next is whether you're a rebound from his marriage. Does he know why his marriage ended? Has he addressed any issues that may have been due to his behavior?
I would only date him if you're okay with it not turning into a serious long-term relationship. |
Anonymous
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You can't file for divorce until you've been separated a year in Maryland. States vary, but he's not
I'd be wary though. His separation is still very new. I did date a separated man, but he'd been separated over two years, had temporary child custody and support papers in place. Ended up marrying him. |
Anonymous
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Every situation is different. My sister met a guy online with the same story and turns out he was still very married and living with his wife. She stayed with him while he continued to lie about his efforts to divorce and finally came to her senses - but lost two years.
I met a guy online that was seperate do and he actually was seperated and was divorced by the time we met in person. We are happily married now. You really never know. |
Anonymous
*that was seperated |
Anonymous
| Really you can't find a guy with out all that baggage? If I were you I would have fun(sexually) but do nt put a lot in to this relationship. Keep looking |
Anonymous
+1. If you're dead-set on a serious LTR, this is high risk. Also make sure he really is living separately, etc. |
Anonymous
| Is it ok? Yes. Are you desperate? Yes. Is he tacky? Hell yes. I don't get why people can't wait a year to get their shit together before they start dating. Like seriously, what's the rush? |
Anonymous
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Every situation is different. If he really is living separately and filing for divorce, go for it. I think think men in this situation often find another partner very quickly.
Like other have said, this is definitely a higher risk situation than someone already divorced. If you can enjoy the relationship, have some good times and not get heartbroken if it doesn't work out, then you should have fun. If you have kids, don't involve them in the relationship at all until he has officially filed for divorce and/or is divorced. |
Anonymous
Well their feelings for one another may have been long dead before they separated. Every situation is different. I don't think dating six months after separation is bad per se. But it is tricky to know whether someone is genuine, whether they've worked through their issues, and whether they are right for you. So OP just be cautious and hd him to very high honesty standards, |
Anonymous
| I did it when I was 20. |
Anonymous
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"If OP wants a long term relationship she needs to be dating much older, say 55 -65. " AARP members - eeew. |
Anonymous
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"The dating market pretty much sucks for 40+ divorced women unless they are hotter than Tabasco Sauce."
As a women in her 40s who has no problem getting dates (and now an LTR) with men in their 40s, I'll take that as a compliment, Mr. Misogynist! |
Anonymous
| What are the divorce stats on second marriages? |