The 180, anyone tried it?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone tried the 180 technique as a last resort to save a marriage?
Would you mind sharing if it worked and how you implemented it?
I understand what you need to do and why, but I am having a hard time with how you balance actually working on your relationship by pulling away from it. How to "move on" but still leave the door open for staying together. Seems like a very fine line...
Thanks

[Anonymous]

Anyone?

[Anonymous]

What is a "180 technique" and why are you trying that?

[Anonymous]

Pp, if you have to ask, you havent done it. OP, this is basically how I have treated my husband since finding out about his affair, but I can't imagine any other way. It's probably because I will probably leave him so I am no help to you.

Try survivinginfidelity.com

[Anonymous]

I'm doing the 180, like PP as a result of my husband's affair. He's noticed and has commented on my indifference and recently mentioned getting professional help to work through everything. I'm basically doing it as a way to concentrate on making me happy and to keep from getting hurt any further. I'm more confident than I was a year ago. Will it save my marriage? It's not my intention, I'm saving myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm doing the 180, like PP as a result of my husband's affair. He's noticed and has commented on my indifference and recently mentioned getting professional help to work through everything. I'm basically doing it as a way to concentrate on making me happy and to keep from getting hurt any further. I'm more confident than I was a year ago. Will it save my marriage? It's not my intention, I'm saving myself.

I am the pp to your post. I totally agree with you.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I guess that has to be the attitude, you do it for yourself and not to save the marriage. Good point, thanks.