cousin's wedding - wwyd?
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Anonymous
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My mother's first cousin's DD is getting married in June. My mom.has no siblings so is really close to her cousins, so, by extension, we became close to them, too. I've seen the DD 15/20 times in my life, but have heard updates, etc. Through the years
The whole family came to my wedding (the DD in question was 14 or so). So, we're invited the the wedding. Wedding is on a Sunday night and cousin expects us to take off Monday,( which is already annoying) but I just realizes that's the week we have taken off for vacation. We don't go often and have had a stressful year. Ask our other vacation time is accounted for with my in laws, which is just the way the cookie crumbles... but now I have a dilemma. I have no real burning desire to go to the wedding, although, it would be great to see the whole family en masse, but I know dh will object. The wedding is in Ohio and were planning on going south for the holiday. We only have Saturday through wednesday off, so it's not like we can do the trip plus the wedding... argh. My mother is going to door if I don't go. Trying to figure out what I want in this situation. I'm feeling my mother's sadness if I don't go, My husband's irritation at going to a wedding of someone he's met five times... Argh. |
Anonymous
| Why do you have to take the Monday off? I'm a little confused by that. I see no problem with going to the wedding and then saying "I'm sorry we can't stay Monday but we've had a vacation booked for months". Best of both worlds. YOu go to the wedding and you don't disrupt your vacation. |
Anonymous
| Why not go somewhere with your family and only you flies up for Sunday and back down Monday? Thus pleasing all. |
Anonymous
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Wedding is Sunday night in.Ohio. We live and work in DC. We can't get back to work Monday morning if we stay for wedding.
Rehearsal dinner Saturday. |
Anonymous
| You clearly don't want to go, or you wouldn't have so many excuses as why it wouldn't work. Decline politely and send your congratulations and a nice gift. Just own your decision. If your mom bugs you, just repeat "Sorry, it's not possible for us to attend. Tell everyone we say hi!" |
Anonymous
| Parents will want all family members present I am guessing (not OP). |
Anonymous
DH will be totally annoyed at that... the extra expense of flying back and forth plus watching kids alone... |
Anonymous
That, too. It'll look really bad if only I show up - as if my DH doesn't want th o come... |
Anonymous
| OP, it kind of sounds like you never had any intention of going to this (a back and forth flight would be required regardless of Monday plans). So just don't go. |
Anonymous
| I guess it depends. Prekids I would have sucked it up and attended the wedding because my husband and I had enough down time with just the two of us. Post kids there is no way in hell I would go. Our life is a series of work and kids events so I am very selfish with my vacation. Each set of grandparents gets one week of our vacation and the other two weeks are ours. |
Anonymous
| OP, people are giving you ways to make it work and you are saying none of them are acceptable. so don't go and deal with it. What other options are you looking for? |
Anonymous
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So you are driving?
Ohio in June is fantastic. Take the kids to Cedar Point. You can have a great vacation there too. |
Anonymous
| PP from above: it is completely unrealistic to break up a 5 day vacation for a trip to Ohio. Your entire vacation would be spent in the air. How annoying. |
Anonymous
Not at all, but ok. Hubby can't handle 24 hours with the kids? You've got bigger issues! |
Anonymous
which is why it sounds like OP never had any intention of going. That said, OP could leave early Saturday morning and early Monday morning and it is a quick flight. It is an hour and a half flight from Reagan to Columbus, so hardly spending the entire vacation in the air. |