cousin's wedding - wwyd?
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Anonymous
| Don't go. Explain that you already have plans that weekend, thanks for the invite, congratulations, etc. |
Anonymous
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Did they just announce the wedding date?
With three months notice and on a Sunday, I would think they would not expect their whole guest list to show up. |
Anonymous
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I didn't read all the responses, but in a nutshell: I wouldn't go. First, you already had other plans. Second, anyone who plans a wedding on a Sunday night shouldn't expect too many out of town guests. They probably chose that night because the cost was substantially cheaper for them. They are not considering the needs of their guests when making the decision. All else equal it would be nice to go -- but in this case, it's not all equal.
Your post makes it clear that you aren't really worried about missing the wedding -- you are worried about disappointing your mom. Talk to your mom, tell her you have other plans. She's probably not going to be as upset as you think. |
Anonymous
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Your DH sounds like an ass.
Do the right thing and go to the wedding. Stop making excuses. |
Anonymous
He sounds like a real keeper, lol. Controlling. He is putting you in a tough spot. |
Anonymous
He is controlling because he's annoyed that this would change everyone's plans and costs EXTRA money? That is controlling??? In my book it is common sense and I would say hell tio the nah!!! |
Anonymous
| I don't think they have specific vacation plans. They've just blocked it off. |
Anonymous
+1000 Why should OP be expected to go to a wedding on a Sunday night in another state when she had previously budgeted for a vacation elsewhere? |
Anonymous
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omg OP please do not go. And don't go by yourself, and don't go only to the rehearsal dinner…please do not put the needs of your immediate family ahead of extended family. You try and accommodate both families, neither will be satisfied.
They will all get over it. Blame work and your DH. Then do your other vacation and have a good time. Agree with a PP that said something like, "before kids, I would, but now my vacation time is too precious" |
Anonymous
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@ PP, Why should she blame DH?
All she needs to do is be an adult and say "I had prior plans." She can decline and send a gift. I agree that immediate family takes precedence. IF it were reversed and it was DH's family, she would probably have no issue in saying no. |
Anonymous
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It sounds like OP actually WANTS to go to the wedding because as she says, it would be great to see all of her family at one time.
The trip down south must be to the in laws. So the DH wants everything to revolve around his side of the family. DH is being an inconsiderate butt head. And I don't get why they have to get to work on Monday if their vacation time goes through Wednesday of the following week. And what are they doing between Wed before the rehearsal dinner and the saturday of the rehearsal dinner? OP's timeline doesn't make any sense. She also says she just realized there's a conflict with the wedding. It sounds like she's known about it for a while now and probably thought she was just going to blow it off until her mother objected. |
Anonymous
| Just send a big check with your regrets that you already have plans. How great that your mom doesn't have conflicting plans . You do. |
Anonymous
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If you want to go, go. If you don't, don't.
On another note, if my husband made a stink about having to take care of the kids for a weekend, he would be read the riot act. |
Anonymous
| Go to Ohio and spend rest of vacation in Michigan |
Anonymous
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So .....
you are fine with your other vacation for the year being w your in-laws, but your husband does not want to budge to accomodate your family? |