Honestly: is 41 too old to have a baby?

[Anonymous]

No. I think 45 is too old. Anything under that is fine.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to ask the 70 and over forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:41 is pushing it - but ok.
42+ is too old.

[Anonymous]

I will say, I have older parents and the fact that they may not be around as long as my friends' parents weighs on me.

[Anonymous]

41 is too old for me personally because by 41 I didn't have the energy. However, I have known 45 years olds with more energy than I had in my 30s so I really think it's an individual thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:41 is pushing it - but ok.
42+ is too old.

Complete nonsense! I had one at that age and half of his classmates have parents nearing AARP application age.

This is NOT 1965; it's 2015.

BTW, my grandmother had her last baby at 43; my uncle turns 64 in January. He's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:41 is pushing it - but ok.
42+ is too old.

Complete nonsense! I had one at that age and half of his classmates have parents nearing AARP application age.

This is NOT 1965; it's 2015.

BTW, my grandmother had her last baby at 43; my uncle turns 64 in January. He's fine.

Something is not okay just because a lot of people do it. A lot of people drink and drive or own guns or are unfaithful. Those things aren't okay just because there are a lot of them.

Your grandmother couldn't plan her fertility the way you can. Your grandmother didn't have access to safe legal abortions, either. She didn't really have a choice about having your uncle at 43.

In 2015, women have a choice about when to have their kids. It's selfish and irresponsible to have a kid when you are over 40. You are going to retiring just as your child gets married. You are going to be dead when your grandchildren get here. You can't contribute much to family life beyond money if you have a kid that late.

[Anonymous]

41 would have been too old for me. A friend of mine had her last baby at 41 and is fine. A lot of it depends on the person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....

the kid in the picture is 5-7. the mother is around 40.

That's you on the LEFT (mom at 41). One the RIGHT is everyone else's mom. The kid is the wrong age -- should be a TEEN. Left and right, you can do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....

the kid in the picture is 5-7. the mother is around 40.

That's you on the LEFT (mom at 41). One the RIGHT is everyone else's mom. The kid is the wrong age -- should be a TEEN. Left and right, you can do it!

The little girl looks as happy as can be.

[Anonymous]

Not old at all. We were 40 when our youngest was born and we are not the oldest parents in his class, nor do we feel old, nor is being 60 when he graduates old anymore either! Then again we have 90+-year-old relatives who still run and swim every day, YMMD (literally).

[Anonymous]

It actually quite natural to have kids into your 40s. People used to do this all the time before birth control. They had large families and the last child or two was. Born when the mom was older. Granted the mom would get lots of help from older siblings.

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 28, and despite being a healthy person with moderate-to-high energy levels, it's taken (and takes!) a lot out of me. I don't know how I'll feel in my early forties, but I imagine energy doesn't increase, so for women going down this path: more power to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its HS graduation time ....

That's you on the left, and on the right is everyone else's mom....

the kid in the picture is 5-7. the mother is around 40.

That's you on the LEFT (mom at 41). One the RIGHT is everyone else's mom. The kid is the wrong age -- should be a TEEN. Left and right, you can do it!

The little girl looks as happy as can be.

First of all, that woman on the left is not 60; try 77+. She looks older than my mom who is 74.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:41 is pushing it - but ok.
42+ is too old.

Complete nonsense! I had one at that age and half of his classmates have parents nearing AARP application age.

This is NOT 1965; it's 2015.

BTW, my grandmother had her last baby at 43; my uncle turns 64 in January. He's fine.

Something is not okay just because a lot of people do it. A lot of people drink and drive or own guns or are unfaithful. Those things aren't okay just because there are a lot of them.

Your grandmother couldn't plan her fertility the way you can. Your grandmother didn't have access to safe legal abortions, either. She didn't really have a choice about having your uncle at 43.

In 2015, women have a choice about when to have their kids. It's selfish and irresponsible to have a kid when you are over 40. You are going to retiring just as your child gets married. You are going to be dead when your grandchildren get here. You can't contribute much to family life beyond money if you have a kid that late.

Riiiight, we have sooooooo much control over fertility. So what you are saying is that I should have had my child out of wedlock to meet your personal age requirements?