Have you ever gotten a DUI/DWI?

[Anonymous]

Long story short: made a terrible mistake and got a DUI. Death in family + death of one of my best friends + severe financial problems = poor choice one night. Everything I feel as a repercussion, I deserve. However, have you ever felt like this is your rock bottom, to which you can never recover from? Or your ultimate nightmare come true, to which you will never awake? Utter despair...

[Anonymous]

I have never gotten a DUI/DWI but I have made plenty of mistakes before...sometimes while drinking. Being depressed + drinking + driving is a disastrous combination. You are so lucky that all that happened was the DUI. No one got killed, no one got severely injured - which could have happened. You will take your lumps and you will survive this just as many others have done before you. Hopefully you will learn valuable lessons from all of this and if you have a drinking problem you will get help for it.

I'm sorry for your losses, Op. You are feeling lost right now but you will be o.k. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your losses, OP. It sounds like you're going through a tough period in your life. It really could have been worse, as pp points out. You're in a difficult place, but if you'd hurt or killed someone(s), things would be a lot worse. You were spared that horror for a reason.

[Anonymous]

We all make mistakes. You can recover from this. Use it as your rock bottom and as a catalyst to make changes in your life.

[Anonymous]

Exactly. You were spared the horror of hurting or killing someone, so you were lucky they pulled you over.
Take this as a wake-up call and get some help to deal with your pain. Rock bottom isn't a bad thing, sometimes it's necessary to move us forward. You'll recover from this, you can and will. Sorry for your losses.

[Anonymous]

My husband did. And it turned his life around. Things are much better for our family.

I'm not sure, though, if I could have weathered it if he had hurt or killed someone).

[Anonymous]

Similar story for me, happened on Dec 21. Only had one drink since. I can honestly say I have zero desire and like PP said I am going to use this to turn things around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never gotten a DUI/DWI but I have made plenty of mistakes before...sometimes while drinking. Being depressed + drinking + driving is a disastrous combination. You are so lucky that all that happened was the DUI. No one got killed, no one got severely injured - which could have happened. You will take your lumps and you will survive this just as many others have done before you. Hopefully you will learn valuable lessons from all of this and if you have a drinking problem you will get help for it.

I'm sorry for your losses, Op. You are feeling lost right now but you will be o.k. Hang in there.

+1. OP, I am very sorry for your losses and for this troubling time. If there is any "silver lining" at least it is ONLY a DUI and no one - not you or an innocent passerby - was injured. If you have a clean record you can probably get the judge to accept driving school as an alternative with a fine. Do not go this without an attorney, request a court-appointed attorney if you cannot afford your own.

Good luck, OP. I hope that life starts looking up soon.

[Anonymous]

Pretend the doctor told you your cancer just disappeared but you have to take a DUI charge.

Then go out and celebrate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretend the doctor told you your cancer just disappeared but you have to take a DUI charge.

Then go out and celebrate.

Does Op also get his/her parent and friend back? All financial problems just (poof) disappear?

[Anonymous]

Yep, happened in my twenties. Super depressed, downward spiral, bound to happen. One night I was wasted, alcohol+pot+speeding and I crashed my car. I still thank God every chance I get that I didn't hurt or kill someone else. Went to the hospital instead of jail. Got a lawyer, knocked it down to reckless driving, so arrest for DUI, convicted of reckless driving. The best part about it was a 3-day rehab stint they let me choose instead of jail.

It was my rock bottom, hopefully it will be yours. Op, I say this as a stranger but think about this. You do not have a death in the family problem. You have an alcohol problem. Go to an AA meeting, go to a therapist. Lots of people lose loved ones and don't get DUIs.

Let this be your rock bottom because there's lots worse things that could happen. Time to wake up and make changes.

[Anonymous]

pp again, PS - everyone at AA has a rock bottom story. Even if you're not an alcoholic, it can be helpful to hear them talk and tell their stories, there will be nuggets that are at least a little familiar to you.

[Anonymous]

Many people have them, back before madd about 60% of males have gotten caught but you don't about it because they used to just let you walk home. Now a days they have gone overboard. Don't sweat it, get through it, don't get one again and in the future call a cab.

[Anonymous]

No because I don't drink and drive.

[Anonymous]

Driving while drinking isn't a mistake. It is a crime.

It is the same as playing Russian Roulette but with a car rather than a gun.

I would say get into therapy. If while stressed by life circumstances your response is to have reckless disregard for you own life and the life of others, then therapy might help you sort out why potentially killing someone was a risk you were willing to take.

I also second getting into AA or some kind of alcohol treatment program. Again when your drinking is impairing your functioning to the point that you are driving dangerously and putting others lives at risk - it is time to get help.