Can I request for DS and "friend" to be placed in seperate K classes?
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Anonymous
| Without dragging out the story too much -- both boys are just a bad combination when together -- they had to be placed in different classrooms back when attending same preschool. I just found out that the friend is slated to attend the same elementary as my DS, so there's a possibility that the boys could end up in the same class. How would I go about it? |
Anonymous
| Hopefully they've matured. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't worry. Let the teachers sort it out. |
Anonymous
| Squeaky wheel gets the oil. Just speak up to the principal. |
Anonymous
Yes, I would mention this to the principal. He/she may or may not honor your request, but at least it is out there. I am not even sure how they divide kids for K - it may be fairly random. How many K classes are there? |
Anonymous
On their own -- yes, but together not so sure ... last time we met at the park (a month ago), I swore to my husband it'd be our last. It's almost as I have a different child when these two get together. |
Anonymous
| If you have a preference for teacher, I'd make that request a higher priority, rather than separating your son from the friend, otherwise, you might get the separation that you want, but the teacher that you didn't. Now if you don't have a preference for teacher, i think it is reasonable to mention that "while it was x years ago. your son and the friend were really not very compatible and you wanted to offer that insight before classroom assignments are made." I wouldn't specifically request that they be separated though. Agree that kids change and mature and the two boys may not even be on one another's radar any longer. |
Anonymous
+1 I'm thinking they'd be grateful to have the information, and appreciate that you are not making a demand, just offering some insight. K placement is always a challenge, since the school doesn't know the kids yet. I know for sure that after K, separating kids that clash into different classrooms is something that the schools try to do. |
Anonymous
| At the K we toured near our house, principal said she doesn't put kids together on request, but will keep them apart if parents request because there will be trouble |
Anonymous
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We had a child that had a "thing" for DD in pre-school and drove her crazy. I had my husband call the principal before K started to let her know that it might not be a good combo if it could be avoided. (IT wasn't a bully-ing situation per se, but he didn't take no for an answer and always was trying to hug and kiss her.)
They have not been the same class, and it's 2nd grade now. |
Anonymous
Yes, I know this to be true at ES. Also, a friend requested her DC and another student be kept separate in MIDDLE school and her request was granted. Let's just say she needed these kids separate for legal issues. |
Anonymous
+1 but I'd add, instead of saying "were not very compatible" you would give one or two examples, being specific about the time frame. Let the school have the information they would want so that they can compose their classes the best way possible. I cut out the PP's section on "If you do/don't have a preference for a particular teacher" because I wouldn't touch that issue. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thanks everyone!
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Anonymous
| Just one more response. If you believe these two kids should not be together, make it known. I emailed the principal and asked that DS not be placed with a particular child. I wasn't specific, but I said I was concerned it would disrupt the learning environment for everyone to have them together. They're in different classes, so I guess she took it seriously. |
Anonymous
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16:55 is right. Yes. When you make the request, don't speak ill of either child.
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