Newly engaged friend started a biz with her ex.....fiancé doesn't know biz partner is an ex.....

[Anonymous]

In the past year, I cut ties with a toxic friend and the guy she was seeing (the three of us are friends from grad school). I cut ties with them because my female friend was treated like garbage by this guy and I got tired of being in the middle of it. They dated for a while, but he told her that "he didn't want a relationship." Yet, he continued to fuck her, she would do his homework for him and clean his apartment (soooooo weird), and he would still bring other girls home from the bars and tell her about it. Needless to say, she was totally obsessed with this guy (even going so far as to move directly across the street from his apartment building) and he was using her. Of course, she would continue to get upset, ranting to me about how the other girls were not as cute as her and why he didn't want to be her boyfriend. I advised her MANY times to stop her obsession and move on with her life.

Fast forward to now. My female friend has been dating a new guy from work for 9 months. They just got engaged a few weeks ago.
However, I go on LinkedIn and find that she just quit her job and has created a new startup company with the ex she was obsessed with. She insists that they are only friends, but they are working out of his apartment! She's with him all the time and, of course, is probably doing 98% of the work for this company while the ex uses her. My guess is that she's probably fucking this guy again.

And, of course, the fiancé knows nothing about their history. He knows nothing about her obsession. The ex has been sold as her "friend from grad school" and no one has the balls to tell this guy the truth.

If you were in the fiancés shoes, would you want someone to tell you? I don't know the guy at all, but he's going to get burned badly. I know with 100% certainty that my friend isn't over this guy. She just really wants to be "married."

[Anonymous]

How do you know all these details if you've cut ties with her?
Why would you want to get sucked back into all this drama with "toxic" people when you've already cut ties because you had enough? Just let it go and don't give it another thought.

[Anonymous]

Walk away from her, OP. She sounds like the toxic undertow from the Titanic. You will be sucked in. Do not get involved in any way. No matter how this plays out, you will get burned.

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walk away from her, OP. She sounds like the toxic undertow from the Titanic. You will be sucked in. Do not get involved in any way. No matter how this plays out, you will get burned.

+1

[Anonymous]

All other PPs are right, but guess what: you're obsessed with "toxic friend," OP. It's all over your post. Walk away from her and stay away. Focus on your own life. Yeah, she's crazy, but from what I read, so are you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All other PPs are right, but guess what: you're obsessed with "toxic friend," OP. It's all over your post. Walk away from her and stay away. Focus on your own life. Yeah, she's crazy, but from what I read, so are you.

+1

Sorry, OP, but you're a little too (mentally) involved for someone who has cut ties.

Stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walk away from her, OP. She sounds like the toxic undertow from the Titanic. You will be sucked in. Do not get involved in any way. No matter how this plays out, you will get burned.

To quote Wynn Duffy- "Didn't they disprove that on Mythbusters?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know all these details if you've cut ties with her?
Why would you want to get sucked back into all this drama with "toxic" people when you've already cut ties because you had enough? Just let it go and don't give it another thought.

Our mutual friends from grad school have told me all about it. They still hang out with her and gossip about this because it's so shocking and absurd.

You're right - I should MYOB. But still, it's hard not to feel bad for the fiance. If I was in his shoes, I'd definitely want to know all this before marrying her.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. Tell your friends to stop talking to you about it.

It sounds like these people have plenty of friends who can fill the fiance in. Unless you enjoy the drama make it clear to everyone that you don't want to hear about it and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

I disagree that OP is obsessed. This story is very interesting. In fact, I encourage OP to let the fiancée know the truth and then let us here know how it went. OP, please give us any updates, I totally see how everybody in your circle got sucked into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree that OP is obsessed. This story is very interesting. In fact, I encourage OP to let the fiancée know the truth and then let us here know how it went. OP, please give us any updates, I totally see how everybody in your circle got sucked into this.

+1. Tell the poor guy before they get married with kids.

[Anonymous]

Tell him. Maybe you cam send him am anonymous facebook/linkedin note telling him to look a little deeper into his fiance's new job.

Also, another data point showing that women love men who do not value them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the past year, I cut ties with a toxic friend and the guy she was seeing (the three of us are friends from grad school). I cut ties with them because my female friend was treated like garbage by this guy and I got tired of being in the middle of it. They dated for a while, but he told her that "he didn't want a relationship." Yet, he continued to fuck her, she would do his homework for him and clean his apartment (soooooo weird), and he would still bring other girls home from the bars and tell her about it. Needless to say, she was totally obsessed with this guy (even going so far as to move directly across the street from his apartment building) and he was using her. Of course, she would continue to get upset, ranting to me about how the other girls were not as cute as her and why he didn't want to be her boyfriend. I advised her MANY times to stop her obsession and move on with her life.

Fast forward to now. My female friend has been dating a new guy from work for 9 months. They just got engaged a few weeks ago.
However, I go on LinkedIn and find that she just quit her job and has created a new startup company with the ex she was obsessed with. She insists that they are only friends, but they are working out of his apartment! She's with him all the time and, of course, is probably doing 98% of the work for this company while the ex uses her. My guess is that she's probably fucking this guy again.

And, of course, the fiancé knows nothing about their history. He knows nothing about her obsession. The ex has been sold as her "friend from grad school" and no one has the balls to tell this guy the truth.

If you were in the fiancés shoes, would you want someone to tell you? I don't know the guy at all, but he's going to get burned badly. I know with 100% certainty that my friend isn't over this guy. She just really wants to be "married."

Just out of curiosity, do you have a life of your own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the past year, I cut ties with a toxic friend and the guy she was seeing (the three of us are friends from grad school). I cut ties with them because my female friend was treated like garbage by this guy and I got tired of being in the middle of it. They dated for a while, but he told her that "he didn't want a relationship." Yet, he continued to fuck her, she would do his homework for him and clean his apartment (soooooo weird), and he would still bring other girls home from the bars and tell her about it. Needless to say, she was totally obsessed with this guy (even going so far as to move directly across the street from his apartment building) and he was using her. Of course, she would continue to get upset, ranting to me about how the other girls were not as cute as her and why he didn't want to be her boyfriend. I advised her MANY times to stop her obsession and move on with her life.

Fast forward to now. My female friend has been dating a new guy from work for 9 months. They just got engaged a few weeks ago.
However, I go on LinkedIn and find that she just quit her job and has created a new startup company with the ex she was obsessed with. She insists that they are only friends, but they are working out of his apartment! She's with him all the time and, of course, is probably doing 98% of the work for this company while the ex uses her. My guess is that she's probably fucking this guy again.

And, of course, the fiancé knows nothing about their history. He knows nothing about her obsession. The ex has been sold as her "friend from grad school" and no one has the balls to tell this guy the truth.

If you were in the fiancés shoes, would you want someone to tell you? I don't know the guy at all, but he's going to get burned badly. I know with 100% certainty that my friend isn't over this guy. She just really wants to be "married."

Just out of curiosity, do you have a life of your own?

Oh please. You are here reading ans thinking about people you don't even know and OP doesn't have a life?