I don't know what to do about DH

[Anonymous]

Today was the day of the IUI and I have felt a lot of pressure/cramping of some reason in my abdominal, so I have been resting all day. By the way I am a SAHM. I didn't really help to much with my daughter today because I haven't been feeling good and he gets so mad at me. He throw me out of her room while he was putting her to be and I feel so horrible right now. I don't know what to do right now. All I feel like doing is crying. I have been feeling horrible because I've been wanting another baby so bad and un able to have one and on the day of the IUI he make me feel like I'm making a mistake!

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. It sounds like he was stressed out from caring for your daughter all day and you are stressed out because of the procedure and the physical discomfort and the (emotional) pressure of going through fertility treatments and everything that brought you to that point. On top of it all, who knows what your hormones are doing these days? I hope you got a good night's rest and everything is better today.

If his reaction is a regular occurrence, that's another story. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds like an unsupportive jerk. So sorry...

[Anonymous]

PP, I disagree and think that 9:40 is much more on target. You have to remember that fertility treatments are difficult and stressful for men/ husbands as well as the actual patient. And don't forget the hormone factor that can play a role in all of this. I'm not saying that his actions were kind or correct, but I think OP needs to cut herself and DH some slack here. There is NOTHING easy about going through fertility treatments, especially when you already have a young child on your hands to care for. OP may need to face the fact that DH can't give her exactly what she needs right now. What do you want to bet that he's not getting all of the support that he needs, either?

[Anonymous]

I still think he was being a bit insensitive to her needs, as he should know she wasn't feeling good. No need to treat her like that.

[Anonymous]

I agree that infertility is really hard for everyone. When you calm down a little, you should talk to dh and discuss how difficult this is for both of you and try to figure out how to treat each other better. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Agree that infertility and its treatment is very hard on the couple... sometimes the husband doesn't show it as much as us, but it does not mean they don't feel the same pain. My husband has been dismissing me for 3 and 1/2 years, saying I am young, that we should wait, that will happen "naturaly eventually", etc... Well, when I got a BFP (our first ever) last week he was the one with tears of joy down his cheeks! I was sooo surprised by his reaction - it just showed me how much it has been affecting him as well.

[Anonymous]

I am preggo!!!!! I got a BFP!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

And DH is so happy!!!!!! He said that he is extremely sorry!

[Anonymous]

Congrats.

[Anonymous]

YAY!!!!! I'm so very happy for you and DH!!!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations))))))