Father with gambling problem

[Anonymous]

My estranged 60 year old father told me he has a gambling problem and is in debt 30k. He keeps begging for money to pay for rent and to pay off some credit cards because he doesn't want to file for bankruptcy and ruin his reputation. I asked him to show me the credit card statements but he keeps dodging that one.

I told him I won't give him money because I have a baby on the way and that it isn't right for parents to ask their children for money. When I told him I was pregnant he completely ignored the news and continued begging for money. I thought it was weird that as a father finding out he has a grandchild on the way to not react in any way or acknowledge my pregnancy.

Recently he asked to live with me but I told him no. I guess I resent the fact that he basically doesn't care about me so I don't feel like I need to "take away" from my family to give to him.

Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

Do not give him money or let him live with you. Maintain boundaries, you can love without enabling.
BTDT!
Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Do not lend him money or let him stay with you. His addiction will drag you and your family down with him. If he can't pay his bills, he needs to file for bankruptcy.

[Anonymous]

Read up on addiction.

[Anonymous]

You are not wrong. Do not give him money, and do not let him live with you. He has a serious gambling problem and you do not want to get tangled up in that. He can file for bankruptcy.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to stop gambling.