Teen son ate an entire large container of Whole Foods smoked mozzarella pasta salad

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of 5 girls and 1 boy. Us girls always felt like we had enough to eat. We were thin. Years later my brother told us he was always hungry and would steal other kids lunches at school. We were shocked! We were middle class, but he considered us poor because he never had enough to eat. When he got a family of his own, he always bought lots of food so no one ever felt hungry. We had no idea he felt this way growing up in the same household. He said he expressed these feelings to my mother at the time, but she would tell him he had plenty and was just being greedy. He grew to be 6 feet tall and was athletic in school.

I feel so bad for your brother. He was legitimately suffering from hunger and called greedy. I’m sure your mom just didn’t know better.

My dad told us that once, when his mom was out of town, his widowed grandmother stayed with his family and cooked dinner for them. She cooked the same tiny portion of food for each person — only the amount she could eat. They didn’t want to be rude, but at the time, my grandfather was performing physical labor and my dad and his brother were teenaged athletes. They waited for her to go to bed for the night and then they made a second dinner because they were all so hungry.

This should be required reading for the posters on this thread.

https://www.apa.org/obesity-guideline/estimated-calorie-needs.pdf

I don't see where that chart says teenage boys have to get the calories from more expensive foods in limited supply, as opposed to making themselves a peanut butter sandwich, or one of a thousand other snacks that don't hoover up the rest of something set aside to be shared by others.

Limited supply? There was a whole second container.

Yes, two is not infinite. Are you okay?

But by that logic no one would be able to eat any food, because if anything other than an infinite supply is "limited" then "limited supply" applies to every food in the house.

Yes, "two" is not "unlimited." What is wrong with you?

So, to say that the kids can't eat anything that is in "limited supply" basically means they can't eat? I understand that you have "thousands" of snacks nin your house, but which of those are in "unlimited supply"?

Nope, not what I wrote, but of course you knew that.

"I don't see where that chart says teenage boys have to get the calories from MORE EXPENSIVE FOODS in limited supply, as opposed to making themselves a peanut butter sandwich, or one of a thousand other snacks that don't hoover up the rest of SOMETHING SET ASIDE TO BE SHARED BY OTHERS."

It's all there in black and white, still. Talking with you in real life must be just as excessively tedious as this.

Every post you make is gaslighting. “Are you OK?” “What is wrong with you?” Blah blah. You sound like a moron.

Sure thing, you and your infinite number of two. Go with that.

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of 5 girls and 1 boy. Us girls always felt like we had enough to eat. We were thin. Years later my brother told us he was always hungry and would steal other kids lunches at school. We were shocked! We were middle class, but he considered us poor because he never had enough to eat. When he got a family of his own, he always bought lots of food so no one ever felt hungry. We had no idea he felt this way growing up in the same household. He said he expressed these feelings to my mother at the time, but she would tell him he had plenty and was just being greedy. He grew to be 6 feet tall and was athletic in school.

I feel so bad for your brother. He was legitimately suffering from hunger and called greedy. I’m sure your mom just didn’t know better.

My dad told us that once, when his mom was out of town, his widowed grandmother stayed with his family and cooked dinner for them. She cooked the same tiny portion of food for each person — only the amount she could eat. They didn’t want to be rude, but at the time, my grandfather was performing physical labor and my dad and his brother were teenaged athletes. They waited for her to go to bed for the night and then they made a second dinner because they were all so hungry.

This should be required reading for the posters on this thread.

https://www.apa.org/obesity-guideline/estimated-calorie-needs.pdf

I don't see where that chart says teenage boys have to get the calories from more expensive foods in limited supply, as opposed to making themselves a peanut butter sandwich, or one of a thousand other snacks that don't hoover up the rest of something set aside to be shared by others.

Limited supply? There was a whole second container.

Yes, two is not infinite. Are you okay?

But by that logic no one would be able to eat any food, because if anything other than an infinite supply is "limited" then "limited supply" applies to every food in the house.

And circle back around to the really good PP (not sure which page at this point) who makes sure her kids know "we can get more". You can always get more at the store, or make more. It might not be instant, or you might need to substitute, and next time you might want to be considerate, but there will be more. I think this is important to not start food disorders and hoarding in a new generation...

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Anonymous wrote:Growth spurt. We’ve had entire containers of raspberries not make it to the fridge. Remind him there are other people in the house who would like to have treats too.

We buy two containers of this specific pasta salad each WF shopping trip. It's lasts about 4-6 days because the rest of us just take a little bit as a side item for lunch or maybe a snack. It seems at the very least uncivilized to hoover an entire container. Even if he's hungry, it's overboard, right?

You shop at WF, you have money. Why not buy enough to satisfy the family. Posts like this show how messed up some people are around food.

I can't tell if you all are just being mean just for sport. You think we should just add 7x 1lb $11.99 each large containers of WF smoked mozz pasta salad to the shopping list so a 13 year old boy can binge eat one before bed every night? This is extremely indulgent and rude to the rest of the family.

I would not buy so little of a family favorite that each member could only take just a “little bit as a side item” for snack or lunch.

I find complaining about WF prices while shopping there for indulgent items to be silly.

Pasta salad is not a meal. Eating over a pound of cold pasta salad is not normal. A small, snack-sized portion to nosh on is the appropriate amount. Delis have those tiny quarter pound containers, that's an appropriate amount to snack on. A 1lb container is four times that size.

You are either not a parent or have tiny ice skating daughters.

No wonder why most Americans suffer from disease when American parents rationalize anti-social gluttony. It’s not normal or humourous for a child who has already eaten dinner to then sneak binge eat 2,000 calories of pasta salad before bed. It’s anti social behaviour which leads to teasing, bullying, depression, obesity, diabetes, knee and hip replacements, cancer and heart disease.

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

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Anonymous wrote:Growth spurt. We’ve had entire containers of raspberries not make it to the fridge. Remind him there are other people in the house who would like to have treats too.

We buy two containers of this specific pasta salad each WF shopping trip. It's lasts about 4-6 days because the rest of us just take a little bit as a side item for lunch or maybe a snack. It seems at the very least uncivilized to hoover an entire container. Even if he's hungry, it's overboard, right?

You shop at WF, you have money. Why not buy enough to satisfy the family. Posts like this show how messed up some people are around food.

I can't tell if you all are just being mean just for sport. You think we should just add 7x 1lb $11.99 each large containers of WF smoked mozz pasta salad to the shopping list so a 13 year old boy can binge eat one before bed every night? This is extremely indulgent and rude to the rest of the family.

I would not buy so little of a family favorite that each member could only take just a “little bit as a side item” for snack or lunch.

I find complaining about WF prices while shopping there for indulgent items to be silly.

Pasta salad is not a meal. Eating over a pound of cold pasta salad is not normal. A small, snack-sized portion to nosh on is the appropriate amount. Delis have those tiny quarter pound containers, that's an appropriate amount to snack on. A 1lb container is four times that size.

You are either not a parent or have tiny ice skating daughters.

No wonder why most Americans suffer from disease when American parents rationalize anti-social gluttony. It’s not normal or humourous for a child who has already eaten dinner to then sneak binge eat 2,000 calories of pasta salad before bed. It’s anti social behaviour which leads to teasing, bullying, depression, obesity, diabetes, knee and hip replacements, cancer and heart disease.

Depends on how many calories they already ate. Not everyone can get by on some almonds.

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Anonymous wrote:Growth spurt. We’ve had entire containers of raspberries not make it to the fridge. Remind him there are other people in the house who would like to have treats too.

We buy two containers of this specific pasta salad each WF shopping trip. It's lasts about 4-6 days because the rest of us just take a little bit as a side item for lunch or maybe a snack. It seems at the very least uncivilized to hoover an entire container. Even if he's hungry, it's overboard, right?

You shop at WF, you have money. Why not buy enough to satisfy the family. Posts like this show how messed up some people are around food.

I can't tell if you all are just being mean just for sport. You think we should just add 7x 1lb $11.99 each large containers of WF smoked mozz pasta salad to the shopping list so a 13 year old boy can binge eat one before bed every night? This is extremely indulgent and rude to the rest of the family.

I would not buy so little of a family favorite that each member could only take just a “little bit as a side item” for snack or lunch.

I find complaining about WF prices while shopping there for indulgent items to be silly.

Pasta salad is not a meal. Eating over a pound of cold pasta salad is not normal. A small, snack-sized portion to nosh on is the appropriate amount. Delis have those tiny quarter pound containers, that's an appropriate amount to snack on. A 1lb container is four times that size.

You are either not a parent or have tiny ice skating daughters.

No wonder why most Americans suffer from disease when American parents rationalize anti-social gluttony. It’s not normal or humourous for a child who has already eaten dinner to then sneak binge eat 2,000 calories of pasta salad before bed. It’s anti social behaviour which leads to teasing, bullying, depression, obesity, diabetes, knee and hip replacements, cancer and heart disease.

Haha, um wow! This is very disordered thinking.

IME many many teenagers have have their calories in the evening/night. Also, I am a late night snacker and often have a good deal of calories at and after dinner. I always have. I weigh 110 pounds and I am a very healthy and unteased, undepressed, non diabetic and all the rest 49 year old woman.

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OP get red stickers. Put one on anything off limits to hangry eaters.

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Anonymous wrote:OP get red stickers. Put one on anything off limits to hangry eaters.

A simple, sensible, practical solution — requiring just two lines of text, rather than 25 pages of back and forth.

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Anonymous wrote:Growth spurt. We’ve had entire containers of raspberries not make it to the fridge. Remind him there are other people in the house who would like to have treats too.

We buy two containers of this specific pasta salad each WF shopping trip. It's lasts about 4-6 days because the rest of us just take a little bit as a side item for lunch or maybe a snack. It seems at the very least uncivilized to hoover an entire container. Even if he's hungry, it's overboard, right?

You shop at WF, you have money. Why not buy enough to satisfy the family. Posts like this show how messed up some people are around food.

I can't tell if you all are just being mean just for sport. You think we should just add 7x 1lb $11.99 each large containers of WF smoked mozz pasta salad to the shopping list so a 13 year old boy can binge eat one before bed every night? This is extremely indulgent and rude to the rest of the family.

I would not buy so little of a family favorite that each member could only take just a “little bit as a side item” for snack or lunch.

I find complaining about WF prices while shopping there for indulgent items to be silly.

Pasta salad is not a meal. Eating over a pound of cold pasta salad is not normal. A small, snack-sized portion to nosh on is the appropriate amount. Delis have those tiny quarter pound containers, that's an appropriate amount to snack on. A 1lb container is four times that size.

You are either not a parent or have tiny ice skating daughters.

No wonder why most Americans suffer from disease when American parents rationalize anti-social gluttony. It’s not normal or humourous for a child who has already eaten dinner to then sneak binge eat 2,000 calories of pasta salad before bed. It’s anti social behaviour which leads to teasing, bullying, depression, obesity, diabetes, knee and hip replacements, cancer and heart disease.

Depends on how many calories they already ate. Not everyone can get by on some almonds.

Please! We all know that obese people don't eat almonds.

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

It seems pretty rude to take the majority of a particular coveted dish and not leave any for anyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

It seems pretty rude to take the majority of a particular coveted dish and not leave any for anyone else.

DP here. I am truly shocked how many posters don't agree this is rude. It's like serving yourself a huge portion at a family style meal before the dish has even made it all the way around the table.

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

It seems pretty rude to take the majority of a particular coveted dish and not leave any for anyone else.

DP here. I am truly shocked how many posters don't agree this is rude. It's like serving yourself a huge portion at a family style meal before the dish has even made it all the way around the table.

OP regularly buys 2 containers of this pasta salad. Her son is 13. He’s grown up frequently seeing this in the fridge and eating it. He doesn’t pay for the groceries so he has no idea what it costs. He’s never been given a limit on how much of it he could eat. One night he was really, really hungry and he ate a bunch of it.

I’m a 51 year old woman who does the grocery shopping for my whole family. I know what Whole Foods charges for these types of prepared foods. I can’t afford a huge calorie splurge, like eating a pound of pasta after dinner — nor could I fit it in my stomach. I would never do what OP’s son did, but I can see how he did it without his being a selfish jerk. He was a hungry kid who didn’t view the pasta salad as a rare or precious resource.

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

It seems pretty rude to take the majority of a particular coveted dish and not leave any for anyone else.

DP here. I am truly shocked how many posters don't agree this is rude. It's like serving yourself a huge portion at a family style meal before the dish has even made it all the way around the table.

OP regularly buys 2 containers of this pasta salad. Her son is 13. He’s grown up frequently seeing this in the fridge and eating it. He doesn’t pay for the groceries so he has no idea what it costs. He’s never been given a limit on how much of it he could eat. One night he was really, really hungry and he ate a bunch of it.

I’m a 51 year old woman who does the grocery shopping for my whole family. I know what Whole Foods charges for these types of prepared foods. I can’t afford a huge calorie splurge, like eating a pound of pasta after dinner — nor could I fit it in my stomach. I would never do what OP’s son did, but I can see how he did it without his being a selfish jerk. He was a hungry kid who didn’t view the pasta salad as a rare or precious resource.

Exactly this

25 pages of nonsense. It’s not that big of deal. OP needs to get laid. She will be happier

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

It seems pretty rude to take the majority of a particular coveted dish and not leave any for anyone else.

DP here. I am truly shocked how many posters don't agree this is rude. It's like serving yourself a huge portion at a family style meal before the dish has even made it all the way around the table.

OP regularly buys 2 containers of this pasta salad. Her son is 13. He’s grown up frequently seeing this in the fridge and eating it. He doesn’t pay for the groceries so he has no idea what it costs. He’s never been given a limit on how much of it he could eat. One night he was really, really hungry and he ate a bunch of it.

I’m a 51 year old woman who does the grocery shopping for my whole family. I know what Whole Foods charges for these types of prepared foods. I can’t afford a huge calorie splurge, like eating a pound of pasta after dinner — nor could I fit it in my stomach. I would never do what OP’s son did, but I can see how he did it without his being a selfish jerk. He was a hungry kid who didn’t view the pasta salad as a rare or precious resource.

Then shame on OP for raising a kid with no manners or common sense. Does he not understand he isn’t supposed to eat the whole package of Oreos or the whole tub of ice cream either? Hogwash, it’s common sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Just thought of this thread because I made a double-batch of a much beloved baked pasta dish last night, and this morning I cut the leftovers into equal pieces and told the kids they were welcome to have theirs for breakfast or take it for lunch. If someone had come downstairs last night and eaten half of what was left, no matter how hungry they were, I would have been mad.

I can see being upset if you specifically said that everyone has their own leftovers.

In our house though, any 'unclaimed' leftovers in the fridge are pretty much a free for all. No rules. I don't care.

It seems pretty rude to take the majority of a particular coveted dish and not leave any for anyone else.

DP here. I am truly shocked how many posters don't agree this is rude. It's like serving yourself a huge portion at a family style meal before the dish has even made it all the way around the table.

I think it just depends on the culture in the family and what the norms are. If I were to buy something like this and I was planning to use to it for a meal, I would let my ravenous boys know it was off limits. This is because for the most part, anything in the fridge or pantry is fair game unless otherwise told. This is how it is in our family.