What secrets do most of your friends & family not know about you?

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 300 people in five years of college.

How is that possible? Try trying to picture how one might go about this. Not that I will partake, I just wouldn't know how to do this.

There are 365 days in a year. 300 in 5 years is totally possible.

I know it is possible. Just wondering about the logistics? Do you keep picking up people in bars? How does it work?

Frat and sorority parties. Every concert I met someone from the band. Bars, dorms, apartments. Swinger parties and clubs. I enjoy sex and was not shy about it then.

How I never got pregnant or an std is a miracle.

+1. I think I was at about 150. I wonder about the existence of STDs given than I made it to 40 and still don’t have one. Have been with my husband only for 15 years now, but still. All the action in the years prior.

High five, pp! Maybe we are Eskimo sisters.

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I was molested by a family member as a child (probably ages 7-9). My family was very fragile (my dad was always threatening to leave my very unstable mother) and this person told me that if I told anyone, I’d break up my family. So I didn’t tell a soul.

I called the cops on my dad when I was 8 because he was beating my brother and I was scared. My dad shamed me so bad after that call.

I attempted suicide at 21. Only my mom and dad know (and presumably my stepmother). I was in a psych ward for a week. After my dad picked me up from the hospital, we never mentioned it again.

I suffered from suicide ideation for 15 years. I’ve called the crisis line several times. The last time - several, several years ago - the man said something to the effect of, “You matter.” And it was so basic and so life changing at the same time.

It all feels like a sad past life. I am now happily married and children. I love my life. I am estranged from most of my family of origin.

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 300 people in five years of college.

How is that possible? Try trying to picture how one might go about this. Not that I will partake, I just wouldn't know how to do this.

There are 365 days in a year. 300 in 5 years is totally possible.

I know it is possible. Just wondering about the logistics? Do you keep picking up people in bars? How does it work?

Frat and sorority parties. Every concert I met someone from the band. Bars, dorms, apartments. Swinger parties and clubs. I enjoy sex and was not shy about it then.

How I never got pregnant or an std is a miracle.

+1. I think I was at about 150. I wonder about the existence of STDs given than I made it to 40 and still don’t have one. Have been with my husband only for 15 years now, but still. All the action in the years prior.

High five, pp! Maybe we are Eskimo sisters.

Interesting you are so proud of this. Does your DH know? Do you compare him to others?

[Anonymous]

My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

You sound extremely ignorant in several ways, and it’s not surprising you have been fired. Whether or not you think you deserve more money, you don’t because that’s up to the person who drafted the will. You are required to provide an accounting if any of your siblings requests it, and then what are you going to do?

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I still sext and sometimes send provocative photos to guys I was talking to when I was separated from DH. I have no romantic feelings toward them or desire to have sex IRL, but it turns me on and sex with DH has never been better.

Do you realize that if your DH finds out (and he will, at some point), that he will likely view this as cheating and you will blow up your marriage for someone you admittedly don’t care about? Get in therapy and figure out why you need this external validation before you end up divorced.

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I sabotaged a high school senior’s college admissions by writing admissions officers anonymously about his criminal history and school disciplinary record for sexual assault and physical assault.

He got into one school I didn’t know he was applying to. I made fake social media accounts and email addresses and turned his friends and girlfriends against him using very specific private information. I sat back for a couple of years and was shocked that my information helped (really it was my introduction of them to each other) and they filed a complaint with the university for sexual and physical assault and he got expelled.

To this day, I told no one not even my DH.

This is next level messed up and wrong, and you know it and that's why you have not told anyone - because no mature adult would be ok with how you handled whatever issues you. had with this kid. Are you the parent from Sidwell Friends who called the admissions offices on a kid? You need therapy, badly.

Nah.. if someone was responsible for sexually assaulting my daughter in HS, I’d burn villages down and salt their fields to get revenge. This is relatively mild.

Yes, this kid sexually assaulted my daughter and other girls at the school and at another school. I actually discussed his actions with the mom of one of his exes. The principal knew about the incidents but did nothing about it. The school policy is to not answer questions on the Common App regarding disciplinary actions or criminal charges. I get that the policy is so kids who are disproportionately targeted by LE or disciplined for things like weed or alcohol are not unfairly impacted in admissions, but this kid was a white male who committed violent crimes. The system is broken and I took things into my own hands.

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My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

You sound extremely ignorant in several ways, and it’s not surprising you have been fired. Whether or not you think you deserve more money, you don’t because that’s up to the person who drafted the will. You are required to provide an accounting if any of your siblings requests it, and then what are you going to do?

The state actually doesn’t care if you provide an accounting or not. I have several friends who have been executors for their parents’ estates and they tell me that no one ever checks on whether or not the executor provides an accounting unless you are dealing with a very large estate. As long as the taxes are paid, no one is really going to check on me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 300 people in five years of college.

How is that possible? Try trying to picture how one might go about this. Not that I will partake, I just wouldn't know how to do this.

There are 365 days in a year. 300 in 5 years is totally possible.

I know it is possible. Just wondering about the logistics? Do you keep picking up people in bars? How does it work?

Frat and sorority parties. Every concert I met someone from the band. Bars, dorms, apartments. Swinger parties and clubs. I enjoy sex and was not shy about it then.

How I never got pregnant or an std is a miracle.

+1. I think I was at about 150. I wonder about the existence of STDs given than I made it to 40 and still don’t have one. Have been with my husband only for 15 years now, but still. All the action in the years prior.

High five, pp! Maybe we are Eskimo sisters.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

I slept with my boss's daughter.

This was about 5 years ago. She was 20 and I was 25. Yes, I'm still employed at the same company. No, my boss doesn't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several…

I was molested by a family member as a child (probably ages 7-9). My family was very fragile (my dad was always threatening to leave my very unstable mother) and this person told me that if I told anyone, I’d break up my family. So I didn’t tell a soul.

I called the cops on my dad when I was 8 because he was beating my brother and I was scared. My dad shamed me so bad after that call.

I attempted suicide at 21. Only my mom and dad know (and presumably my stepmother). I was in a psych ward for a week. After my dad picked me up from the hospital, we never mentioned it again.

I suffered from suicide ideation for 15 years. I’ve called the crisis line several times. The last time - several, several years ago - the man said something to the effect of, “You matter.” And it was so basic and so life changing at the same time.

It all feels like a sad past life. I am now happily married and children. I love my life. I am estranged from most of my family of origin.

I'm sorry you went through all of this. The person who told you he'd break up your family if you spoke about the molestation is flat evil.

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Anonymous wrote:I took my very elderly parent to a lawyer to have their will written and made sure I was the executor. When they died about a year or so later, I made my siblings think they were all getting their fair share of our parent’s estate, which they somewhat are, but in reality, I’m getting more than my siblings.

I’ve been surprised at how easy it has been to hide various small amounts of money that add up to me getting thousands more than my siblings. One sibling has been sniffing around a bit and asking questions, but I think she’s too dumb to figure it out. Bonus points for getting to stick it to my one really annoying sibling.

Is this just greed on your part or do you feel you deserve more, for example, for taking care of them?

My sibling who is very annoying married a man who allows her to stay home and “take care” of their kids. She does absolutely nothing in terms of work, even though my parents spent tons of money sending her to a private college and grad school. I’m divorced with kids, work hard, and have been fired twice in the last few years. I need the money way more than she does. She’s getting plenty and there’s no need for her to know that there’s more that I’m keeping for myself.

You're gross and vile. It's easy to see why you've been divorced and fired.

+1

I know families who have been through this very scenario. It literally tears the family apart. Honestly, it seems those who have been given the most are most prone to taking more - in this case, probably you. I know there is more you are not divulging. You seem very proud of yourself. Congratulations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:people who have slept with your spouse's friend/parent/brother - just tell your spouse. Chances are, they suspect something and you're ok gaslighting them because you're a coward who cant' face consequences.
How are you ok being in a relationship and loved based on lies?

Wow you care a little too much. Something amiss in your relationship? Are you speaking from past experiences?

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 300 people in five years of college.

How is that possible? Try trying to picture how one might go about this. Not that I will partake, I just wouldn't know how to do this.

There are 365 days in a year. 300 in 5 years is totally possible.

It's an average of 5 a month...totally possible (especially if you're female).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 300 people in five years of college.

How is that possible? Try trying to picture how one might go about this. Not that I will partake, I just wouldn't know how to do this.

There are 365 days in a year. 300 in 5 years is totally possible.

It's an average of 5 a month...totally possible (especially if you're female).

I wouldn’t be so proud of that body count if you are female.

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with over 300 people in five years of college.

How is that possible? Try trying to picture how one might go about this. Not that I will partake, I just wouldn't know how to do this.

There are 365 days in a year. 300 in 5 years is totally possible.

It's an average of 5 a month...totally possible (especially if you're female).

I wouldn’t be so proud of that body count if you are female.