AAP perspective - am I making too big a deal about it?

[Anonymous]

So, I'm one of the neurotic moms that wants her daughter in AAP and, while I don't expect other parents to be as determined about it as me, I figure that most are at least aware of the program. The other day, I asked my friend if she had received her son's AAP results (her son is in the same class as my child) and if she was as anxious as me. She didn't even know what AAP was and, in fact, changed my perspective a bit. Maybe this isn't such a big deal, maybe I'm making way too much of it...FWIW, I'm SAHM and she works full time.

[Anonymous]

I would never ask another patents if they received their child's "results." It makes it seem like you want to know the scores. I didn't realize that my moving my child to the center, I would be getting away from the moms like you (all of the moms like you stayed for lliv), but it has been a godsend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I'm one of the neurotic moms that wants her daughter in AAP and, while I don't expect other parents to be as determined about it as me, I figure that most are at least aware of the program. The other day, I asked my friend if she had received her son's AAP results (her son is in the same class as my child) and if she was as anxious as me. She didn't even know what AAP was and, in fact, changed my perspective a bit. Maybe this isn't such a big deal, maybe I'm making way too much of it...FWIW, I'm SAHM and she works full time.

It's not a big deal and your employment status as compared to hers makes no difference, either.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you're making a big deal about absolutely nothing. Make sure to save some money for your child's therapy when she doesn't make it in and she feels like a big failure to you. Or she does make it in and you continue to live vcariously through her thereby robbing her if her own identity. Good job crazy mom!!!

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, AAP has been so blown out of proportion that parents of younger kids feel there's no way but the AAP highway. You're absolutely right that this is no big deal. Your friend has the right perspective, for sure. Once elementary school is over, no one will care or remember whether your daughter was in AAP. Trust me, as a mom of very successful older students, one of whom was in AAP and two others who were not: AAP is not a game-changer in any way.

[Anonymous]

I never raise the subject. No good can come of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I'm one of the neurotic moms that wants her daughter in AAP and, while I don't expect other parents to be as determined about it as me, I figure that most are at least aware of the program. The other day, I asked my friend if she had received her son's AAP results (her son is in the same class as my child) and if she was as anxious as me. She didn't even know what AAP was and, in fact, changed my perspective a bit. Maybe this isn't such a big deal, maybe I'm making way too much of it...FWIW, I'm SAHM and she works full time.

It is a delight to a parent to pretend to another parent that they don't know what AAP is. One of those little white lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, AAP has been so blown out of proportion that parents of younger kids feel there's no way but the AAP highway. You're absolutely right that this is no big deal. Your friend has the right perspective, for sure. Once elementary school is over, no one will care or remember whether your daughter was in AAP. Trust me, as a mom of very successful older students, one of whom was in AAP and two others who were not: AAP is not a game-changer in any way.

I disagree 1000% My student was repeating material from K in 1st, K in 2nd, K in 3rd...when they call it base, they are not kidding.

[Anonymous]

Not OP- Our neighbors didn't know what the scores were for, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, AAP has been so blown out of proportion that parents of younger kids feel there's no way but the AAP highway. You're absolutely right that this is no big deal. Your friend has the right perspective, for sure. Once elementary school is over, no one will care or remember whether your daughter was in AAP. Trust me, as a mom of very successful older students, one of whom was in AAP and two others who were not: AAP is not a game-changer in any way.

I disagree 1000% My student was repeating material from K in 1st, K in 2nd, K in 3rd...when they call it base, they are not kidding.

The point was that once the kids are in high school, there is no difference between kids who were in AAP and those who were not. NONE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, AAP has been so blown out of proportion that parents of younger kids feel there's no way but the AAP highway. You're absolutely right that this is no big deal. Your friend has the right perspective, for sure. Once elementary school is over, no one will care or remember whether your daughter was in AAP. Trust me, as a mom of very successful older students, one of whom was in AAP and two others who were not: AAP is not a game-changer in any way.

I disagree 1000% My student was repeating material from K in 1st, K in 2nd, K in 3rd...when they call it base, they are not kidding.

The point was that once the kids are in high school, there is no difference between kids who were in AAP and those who were not. NONE.

+1000 But it is slightly entertaining to watch all this hand-wringing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, AAP has been so blown out of proportion that parents of younger kids feel there's no way but the AAP highway. You're absolutely right that this is no big deal. Your friend has the right perspective, for sure. Once elementary school is over, no one will care or remember whether your daughter was in AAP. Trust me, as a mom of very successful older students, one of whom was in AAP and two others who were not: AAP is not a game-changer in any way.

I disagree 1000% My student was repeating material from K in 1st, K in 2nd, K in 3rd...when they call it base, they are not kidding.

The point was that once the kids are in high school, there is no difference between kids who were in AAP and those who were not. NONE.

+100

[Anonymous]

My oldest child is too young to be going through the AAP drama yet (he's in 1st grade) but we already know that we'll turn down AAP should it be offered. He's in one of the local spanish immersion programs, and I think learning a second language is faaaarrrr more important than anything he could get out of AAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, I'm one of the neurotic moms that wants her daughter in AAP and, while I don't expect other parents to be as determined about it as me, I figure that most are at least aware of the program. The other day, I asked my friend if she had received her son's AAP results (her son is in the same class as my child) and if she was as anxious as me. She didn't even know what AAP was and, in fact, changed my perspective a bit. Maybe this isn't such a big deal, maybe I'm making way too much of it...FWIW, I'm SAHM and she works full time.

It is a delight to a parent to pretend to another parent that they don't know what AAP is. One of those little white lies.

tee hee. The other mom was probably preparing her appeal even as you spoke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, AAP has been so blown out of proportion that parents of younger kids feel there's no way but the AAP highway. You're absolutely right that this is no big deal. Your friend has the right perspective, for sure. Once elementary school is over, no one will care or remember whether your daughter was in AAP. Trust me, as a mom of very successful older students, one of whom was in AAP and two others who were not: AAP is not a game-changer in any way.

I disagree 1000% My student was repeating material from K in 1st, K in 2nd, K in 3rd...when they call it base, they are not kidding.

The point was that once the kids are in high school, there is no difference between kids who were in AAP and those who were not. NONE.

sure there is. The AAP kids got a lot more advanced education. They are ahead by at least a year if not more at that point.