Am I reading too much into this gift?
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Anonymous
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My nephew's 1st birthday was a couple of months ago, I sent a cute card with a message and had my kids sign it, along with a toy. (We live in different parts of the country so it's all done by mail). My DD's birthday was a couple months later. My sister sent a gift a month late, directly from the company, not wrapped, no card with any type of personal message, I guessed it was from her. I contacted her asking if she sent it so I could thank her and it was indeed from her.
It kind of seems like she felt obligated to send a gift because I had sent one to her child. My kids are older than hers and this is the first time she's ever sent a birthday gift. She always calls or emails on their birthdays, so I know she remembers and cares. But the gift just seemed insincere. Would you have felt this way? |
Anonymous
| Yes, but not a big deal. |
Anonymous
| Oh OP. You have so much to learn. |
Anonymous
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Maybe she had other things going on and it slipped her mind. She wanted to send something, and the fastest way was to buy it online and ship it that way.
I love my nephew to pieces but for almost all his gifts I buy and ship direct from the company (or amazon) -- but I also warn my brother so that he knows the gift is arriving unwrapped. It's easier than buying the gift, wrapping it, and then getting to a post office to mail it. Your nephew is only 1 -- he wouldn't be able to sign and color a card like your kids. |
Anonymous
Well obviously. But my kid can read, so it would a lot more personal if my kid got a card from her aunt. |
Anonymous
Teach me!! |
Anonymous
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It may be that she felt she needed to send your DD a gift this year because you had sent her DS something on his birthday.
Perhaps otherwise she would have emailed or sent a card, as she had in prior years, before she had her own child. It wouldn't occur to me to get upset about how a gift was presented or delivered, and your kids would never notice unless they were picking up on your feelings. I send Amazon gifts all the time, and if she's new to this, she may not have noticed the option to gift wrap or write a note. It was thoughtful of her to send a gift - life is way to short to not let this go immediately, take a deep breath and enjoy the day. |
Anonymous
+1 annoying, but in the larger scheme of things...let it go. |
Anonymous
| Never sent gifts to your kids before now + young baby at home = she's probably just doing the best she can and didn't think to include a note or get the gift sent out in time. I wouldn't overthink it. |
Anonymous
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I have made the mistake several times of forgetting to go to the page where you click the gift option and fill out the on-line card with "Love to Nephew Byron from Aunt Tessie" and have gotten emails asking if I sent the widget. No, I do not love my nephews/nieces any less. It's just technology.
It will happen to you too, OP. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| She sent a gift to your kid bc you sent one to hers. She probably didn't know what to get for an older kid and just sent you something from amazon. I always send gifts directly from the store. If I had to wrap it, put it in another box, mail it then it would prob be two months late. It is too much hassle to do that for family. OP- you need to grow up. Maybe she doesn't want to exchange gifts with you but now feels obligated to do so. |
Anonymous
| The gift was fine and age appropriate, I never complained about that. It's just awkward to think she's giving a gift out of obligation and doesn't really want to do it. I'll let her off the hook next year and not send one for her kid. |
Anonymous
Yes. If she didn't send one, you'd be on here griping. |
Anonymous
This. She sent a gift, which is really nice of her, and I think you're reading too much into it. |