Article: 7 Signs You Have a Mediocre Sex Life

[Anonymous]

An article on AlterNet.org this morning caught my attention, and resonated.

The list:

1) You think about other things.
2) You count the minutes till it's over.
3) You get dressed immediately after.
4) You (or your partner) only get off in a certain position.
5) You fantasize about OTHER sexual experiences.
6) You're scared to talk "dirty."
7) You're not honest with yourself.

The full article is at http://www.alternet.org/7-signs-you-have-mediocre-sex-life-and-just-dont-know-it

[Anonymous]

I'd take mediocre over non-existent.

[Anonymous]

Yep, that's us.

[Anonymous]

8) You think quickies count.

Quickies do not count in a great sex life as anything more than a quick snack. It does not replace the main meal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8) You think quickies count.

Quickies do not count in a great sex life as anything more than a quick snack. It does not replace the main meal.

They work for us!!

[Anonymous]

#4 is kind of weird. People like what they like. You can't help it if your body is built a certain way.

[Anonymous]

That post was written by a very, very young person. Does not really have much relevance to sex in a long-term relationship facing all the ups and downs of life, kids, health ...

Also, #5 is stupid in any context! Fantasies are great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An article on AlterNet.org this morning caught my attention, and resonated.

The list:

1) You think about other things.
2) You count the minutes till it's over.
3) You get dressed immediately after.
4) You (or your partner) only get off in a certain position.
5) You fantasize about OTHER sexual experiences.
6) You're scared to talk "dirty."
7) You're not honest with yourself.

The full article is at http://www.alternet.org/7-signs-you-have-mediocre-sex-life-and-just-dont-know-it

Just because one partner prefers a certain position, that's not a problem as long as s/he tries several others weekly. Variety is the spice of life.

Parents often get dressed quickly after or do it partially clothed in case kids wake up. Personally, it hasn't hindered DH's sexual performance and can in fact enhance it if both partners are flexible and have a sense (senses?) of humor.

Fantasizing about other sexual experiences is healthy and leads to other interesting scenarios to share. What's needed? More fantasy and exploration, not less.

Honesty is always the best policy. In sex, it's the way to more fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8) You think quickies count.

Quickies do not count in a great sex life as anything more than a quick snack. It does not replace the main meal.

Some couples enjoy snacking between meals.

[Anonymous]

If you count the minutes until it's over, your sex life is worse than mediocre.

[Anonymous]

Just because one partner prefers a certain position, that's not a problem as long as s/he tries several others weekly. Variety is the spice of life.

I think if you're playing and experimenting, that's a sign that you have a better sex life. I think it's just that if you ALWAYS do it in the same position because that's the only position one partner wants, that's what the author is flagging.

Parents often get dressed quickly after or do it partially clothed in case kids wake up. Personally, it hasn't hindered DH's sexual performance and can in fact enhance it if both partners are flexible and have a sense (senses?) of humor.

I agree. I think the question is why you're jumping up to get dressed. DW jumps out to get dressed b/c she doesn't like her body and prefers to be covered.

Fantasizing about other sexual experiences is healthy and leads to other interesting scenarios to share. What's needed? More fantasy and exploration, not less.

I agree with your interpretation. I think the author was saying that if you're always fantasizing about being with someone else, that's a bad sign.

Honesty is always the best policy. In sex, it's the way to more fun.

I think that's the authors position, too, and I'd agree. DW won't open up about anything that she likes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8) You think quickies count.

Quickies do not count in a great sex life as anything more than a quick snack. It does not replace the main meal.

Some couples enjoy snacking between meals.

This.
Snack between meals but do not forgo the meals. You need to take time during sex and make time for sex. This is an important part of what a relationship is. You have to fulfill yourself and your partner sexually.