Getting it out

[Anonymous]

I originally posted this in the sex forum, but I'm thinking it would be better here.

I've been with my spouse for less than 3 years and we never have sex anymore. In the beginning we had it all the time even daily for awhile. In 2013 we were intimate 6 times and its not getting better. I have tried to do all that I can to bring the passion back, but nothing or I get told to stop and shoved away. It's devastating and has been tearing me apart. I know it's from medicine she is taking, but it doesn't make it easier. I feel undesirable, unwanted, and foolish. She will come up to me sometimes and playfully grab me in a sexual way. When she first started doing it I would get excited and think she was getting into the groove and wanted to be intimate, but time after time it never led anywhere. I'm at the point now where I ignore it or say stop/don't. I love it, but it's one big tease that leaves me worse off than if she hadn't done it. I don't know how much longer I can take being in a sexless relationship. I'm trying to stick it out though and take care of myself, but the last time I did I ended up crying from how empty I felt.

I'm just sad.

[Anonymous]

Are you two in counselling?

[Anonymous]

If you are not being fulfilled sexually, tell her. If it doesn't improve, leave. Medication or not, she should still be pleasing you and you should be pleasing her. Women come up with so many damn excuses as to why they won't have sex with their spouse. If she isn't in the mood, a hand job or a blow job here and there will do.

Signed,
A woman

[Anonymous]

Change medications.

[Anonymous]

What med?

Do you have kids?

Do you fool around and do things other than intercourse or is there next to no affection?

Does she have medical issues that make sex painful?