Letting go of the hurt

[Anonymous]

Another thread started the tears for me. I'm recently divorced (6 months) and I just imagined what would have been our teenager's hang out spot in the home that is no longer ours and a relationship that didn't mean anything to my ex.

He's moved on very quickly. I'm not sure that he ever valued me because I'm also pretty sure he only does things for looks. Right now, the pain is still real because the final negotiations only solidified what I already knew: he doesn't care. Yet, here I am, crying about my list family.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of what he did, you are a valuable, special person. You deserve to pursue your own happiness. You can remember the good things as you move on, but if your ex-husband was so shallow, good riddance.

Sending you warmth and strength.

[Anonymous]

This too shall pass.

I've been through my moms divorces and her first divorce (my parents) was when I was fifteen. That first year wasn't easy. I still remember it like it was yesterday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of what he did, you are a valuable, special person. You deserve to pursue your own happiness. You can remember the good things as you move on, but if your ex-husband was so shallow, good riddance.

Sending you warmth and strength.

+1,000,000 ((hugs))

[Anonymous]

Hugs. I understand your grief. I have to say, though, I'm glad you and that guy are divorced because you deserve someone who cares about you. He may have moved on quickly but unless he takes a good look at himself, the problems he had in your relationship will carry on to his subsequent relationships. I know you're probably not up for sympathy for who he's with but he'll do to her what he's done to you and that sucks for her. Deep breath! Each week will get better than the one before. You WILL feel like your old self again. You just have to get through this. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Hang in there OP. You did the right thing. Hugs sent your way.

[Anonymous]

Having been through something similar, I believe that there are good things ahead for you. It is so hard to see that when you're in pain, but know that it is true. You sound like a good person and a loving mother. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having been through something similar, I believe that there are good things ahead for you. It is so hard to see that when you're in pain, but know that it is true. You sound like a good person and a loving mother. Hang in there.

Thanks PP. Vulnerable post & moment for me. Even when I think the drama is over with my ex it comes back, so I guess these moments will be few and far between before I'm reminded as to why it's over.