Ladies- How would you react

[Anonymous]

I'm a straight guy but have worn woman's tights/pantyhose. Last year, I tried on one of my wife's dresses and sat in the family room with her. While not thrilled, I explained it was curiosity and I did enjoy the feel of it. I have also tried a few others. It has been a few months and I want to do it again. Just want to see what your thoughts would be if your husband walked in wearing a dress and hosiery.

[Anonymous]

Iwould wonder why you were doing it and whether there's something you need to tell me, like you're transgender or something. I wouldn't be thrilled either, but if the relationship was otherwise solid and you had a stable job etc it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Not a deal breaker but I would wonder how often you do it and why you did it in secret. I mean, if you did it for a laugh and surprised me with it, that's fine. But if you kept doing it every couple months...I dunno, I would want to talk about it.

[Anonymous]

I won't lie, I would be initially alarmed and unsettled.
Part of my initial attraction to DS was his "otherness", his masculinity. But I do love and respect my DH so I would want to talk to him about it, ask lots and lots of questions and learn more about cross-dressing and what leads to such a desire/need. But I would certainly be freaked out, at least initially. I wouldn't want him to spring it on me by just showing up in the living room in a dress or hose - I would rather he initiate a conversation about it.

[Anonymous]

Deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care.

[Anonymous]

My DH is bigger than me. I would be concerned about, in this order:

1. that he was having gender identity issues that he was not comfortable talking to me about
2. that these issues would affect our sex life
3. that he would stretch out my dresses such that I wouldn't be able to wear them again

[Anonymous]

I would be fine with my brother, cousin, or good friend doing this. But not my husband, the one person I have a sexual relationship with. I do not find cross-dressing in men to be sexy. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I think I would be much more bothered if it was just "hey surprise I'm wearing your clothes" than if you talked about it with me first.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to be married to no fag.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing you've known about this for most of your life. Therefore, you owed it to your wife before you married her to tell her about this. You should have found some courage and respect for yourself and for her and had been straightforward with her from the start or just not had gotten involved with a woman who most likely wanted a plain vanilla male/female marriage. I'd say the same regarding a man or woman who married someone without telling them about their gambling addiction or secret child out of wedlock from ten years ago. I'd like to exactly know who the heck I'm marrying-- wouldn't you?

Nice job making her a victim and god forbid your children if you have any, victims of your identity crisis. It's not her job to help you figure out whether you should wear women's clothing. It's a therapist's job. Get one.

[Anonymous]

You would need to get your own clothes. I would not want to share my clothes. Men sweat more and I really doubt that you and your wife are the same size. Also, most cross-dressers are not interested in Jones New York and Calvin Klein. They want the feel of silk and satin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to be married to no fag.

You are confusing homosexuality and cross-dressing. Not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want to be married to no fag.

No using F words unless you're in the club.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Looks like you hit a nerve with 15:23.

First, I (and apparently only I) understand that there is a wide gap between cross-dressing and gender identity issues or being gay. I'm pretty sure the vast majority of cross dressers are straight.

That said, this is something you need to talk with your wife about. She may have strong feelings, fears and doubts that will take some time to work through. Possibly together with a counselor.

Good luck, OP.