Anybody rekindle with their first love years after the fact

[Anonymous]

Curious to see how things worked out.

[Anonymous]

Yup. My college SO and I re-connected 20 years later after we were divorced from other people. Just to be clear, we were both divorced before we got back in touch.

It did not work out per se. It was a long distance relationship with us seeing each other once a month or so. Both of us had our school age kids and jobs to manage also. It was interesting in that I remembered why I fell in love with the person while also being reminded why we broke up. LOL!! We got along fine when we were together, the sex was great and we are still great friends. But life got in the way and neither of us was willing to uproot our lives to take it further.

[Anonymous]

Yup, and now I am married to him. It was only 5-7 years after the fact however.

[Anonymous]

Excellent - I actually just opened DCUM with this exact same question. I recently reconnected with an ex on FB - I would consider him the one that got away, and he's currently available. We broke up eight years ago, and I was the one that ended it. We had a short, friendly chat when I friended him. He does not live in DC, but mentioned he travels here pretty regularly for work and would love to get together the next time he's here. That was about two months ago - for the PP with a long distance relationship, did you just start emailing back and forth? I was just planning on waiting until he is in town, but maybe I should reach out to him?

[Anonymous]

Friend of mine just remarried her first husband 22 years after they divorced.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It ended disastrously because we were both married. I miss him every day.

[Anonymous]

9:37 PP here. We emailed and spoke on the phone regularly for a month before we saw each other in person. Then when I travelled there to see my parents, we had dinner. But plenty of groundwork and feeling out was done on those calls and such.

[Anonymous]

MIL did after FIL died. Old flame was a dick, twice-divorced, and their collective crazy was a disaster. He died a couple of years ago so now we and SIL are the lucky recipients of the full crazy again.

So, maybe if neither of you are crazy it might work out for you. But the reasons that it didn't work in the first place are probably going to be the same reasons it's a hot mess now.

[Anonymous]

My mother's 2nd husband left her when they were both about 70 because he had sought and "found" his true love - his girlfriend from when he was 14 years old, and had to break up with when he went to college at 16.

[Anonymous]

Only if they wanted to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Ha! I am FB friends with my first ever girlfriend and real crush. She and I are married to other people. While I can see how we were (and are) friends - similar values, interests, etc. - I cannot for the life of me see anything in her to be sexually or romantically attracted to. I look at her pics and I think, WTF? It's been 30 years, but she is still about the same size/weight (and so am I actually), and she has aged well. I just do not see it at all! I love and am very attracted to my wife but there are other women who prick my ears up, so it's not that.

[Anonymous]

I'm like PP. I'm FB friends with many of my exes and it never fails to make me laugh when I read a post that reminds me of why we are exes.

I think so much of what we love about our old flames are the "what could've been" scenarios, but they are usually fantasies we've concocted to escape reality. Life would still be life with those people.

[Anonymous]

My sister tried it after her divorce. Major disaster.

[Anonymous]

14:56 here. I roll my eyes and laugh at my exes on FB, too, except for the one I was afraid to friend while married because I knew where it might lead - or where it might allow my mind to go. Maybe it's because I dated him right before I met my now former spouse, who was pretty clearly a rebound?