Dating & Match

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing someone for 4 months now. In full disclosure, we haven't had the exclusive talk yet. I've had my profile hidden since about date #2 or 3- my decision, I just am not one to juggle a bunch of dates. I do however go on daily to see if he is on and he's pretty active on a daily basis. It really bothers me and my gut tells me he's prob playing the field. But wonder is he just window shopping?

[Anonymous]

Aren't you doing the same?
Talk to him. Do you want to be exclusive?

[Anonymous]

you have built up expectations even though you haven't had the 'talk'. if you have problems communicating even at an early stage, you'll be ill-equipped for more serious issues in any real relationship.

if you are 30+, stop acting like a child.

[Anonymous]

I've been there. Assume he is dating other women. It's so hard to balance pretending like you are good with the pace versus being overbearing, but only you know what you can tolerate, so if you need to talk to him about where things are going do so, but don't make it too serious.

[Anonymous]

How old are you both? Have you been married before? Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Just talk to him. Had a similar situation and guy I was dating immediately took down his profile when I talked to him. Said he didn't know how serious I was.

[Anonymous]

Put up your profile and continue to date until the Big Talk. You're neurotic because you have blocked all of your other options.

[Anonymous]

If your profile is hidden and you're not dating other people, you're going online just to stalk him?


I'm sure this stalker vibe comes through elsewhere in your interactions with him

depending on your age, i'd say it is plenty of enough time to understand exactly where you are with him so just ask him straight up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put up your profile and continue to date until the Big Talk. You're neurotic because you have blocked all of your other options.

She's neurotic because she likes the guy and doesn't want to date anyone else??? Wtf! Not everyone enjoys dating a bunch of people at one time.

Being a female, I get her hesitancy in broaching the subject. There are a lot of men out there who run as fast as they can if the woman mentions one thing about where the relationship is currently or where it's going- they swear she's trying to run to the alter. Men have made it almost taboo for this topic to be brought up because Oh my God, she may want to be exclusive!!!

Op - at some point the two of you will have to have the talk and it should come up sooner rather than later. You may not like his answer but that goes along w/ the dating thing.

[Anonymous]

she is neurotic because she hides her profile and continuously stalks this guy to secretly check on his behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put up your profile and continue to date until the Big Talk. You're neurotic because you have blocked all of your other options.

She's neurotic because she likes the guy and doesn't want to date anyone else??? Wtf! Not everyone enjoys dating a bunch of people at one time.

Being a female, I get her hesitancy in broaching the subject. There are a lot of men out there who run as fast as they can if the woman mentions one thing about where the relationship is currently or where it's going- they swear she's trying to run to the alter. Men have made it almost taboo for this topic to be brought up because Oh my God, she may want to be exclusive!!!

Op - at some point the two of you will have to have the talk and it should come up sooner rather than later. You may not like his answer but that goes along w/ the dating thing.

They have been dating for 4 months and he is actively pursuing others. Read the writing on the wall! Dude thinks he can do better and wants to keep his options open. He is more attractive to her partially because of this, whether she is aware of it or not. He knows she isn't seeing others and isn't in any rush to solidify things. A guy who really wants you will make it clear within the first month or two.

[Anonymous]

He is just not that into you.