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Anonymous
| How to deal with a shy man? (26 years of age)I really like him but his friends say he will not make the move to ask me to hangout. They said I need to be the "go-getter" anyone else ever deal with this? I am used to the guy asking me out! |
Anonymous
| How do you deal with a shy man? Ask him out. Understand you're not used to it, but . . .. |
Anonymous
| Maybe he's not that interested. Do you want a passive guy? |
Anonymous
| Bold prediction: he's way less shy in the sack. You're expecting Ward Cleaver, but I bet Mr. Shyboy ends up being more like Evan Stone...Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Move on. If he's that shy it speaks to low confidence, which can be a hindrance in many aspects of life. |
Anonymous
| Befriend him and let him open up. |
Anonymous
The truth. |
Anonymous
| A 26 year old man's friends are not supposed to be all up in his love life like that. He's a child let him go. |
Anonymous
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You like him. Throw out the rules. Ask him out.
Or wait around for him to ask you out and be unhappy/annoyed when it doesn't happen. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you two are perfect for each other - couple of indecisive and passive dependent personality disorder duds with nary a backbone or an assertive bone between them. |
Anonymous
| Ask him out for a group event, like a happy hour with a few friends. Maybe if he gets more comfortable, he will either ask you out or let you know somehow why he's not asking you out. (shyness, disinterest, gay, etc.) |
Anonymous
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OP, it would be good practice for you to ask this guy out. I know you're not used to it and it probably makes you uncomfortable but you need to be able to ask men out! It's just a skill you need for modern life like being able to write a resume.
Anyway, good luck! Hope it works out whatever you do. |
Anonymous
No she doesn't need to be able to ask men out. A man who's interested and has a backbone will do it himself. Relationships that start with the woman directly chasing the man never work out well for the woman. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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"Move on. If he's that shy it speaks to low confidence, which can be a hindrance in many aspects of life."
+3 |