And of course my in-laws get me sick

[Anonymous]

My husband insists on a Christmas eve brunch despite the fact that they had something planned on Jan 3rd. In true form, they didn't solidify plans until 2 days prior to Christmas eve. Then, his father and step-mother show up with colds, not saying a word prior about being sick. Oh, and his brother and wife show up an hour late, no call, nothing. Also typical.

I am taking my daughter to Florida tomorrow. First vacation in 5 years as my husband hates to travel. I haven't had a cold in over 2 years. And I'm starting a sore throat. Was looking forward to seeing my elderly aunt on Saturday but now there's a good chance that's off. Took some vitamin C tonight and hoping for the best.

Good news is that I'm driving back, so I won't have to get on a plane congested. Tomorrow, I should not be congested enough for it to be an issue. My daughter is 17, so the blessing is I won't have to run after her and can relax. Glad I booked a nice resort!

Hate them.
Hate.

[Anonymous]

So you're complaining about the in-laws making you sick, but you're still going on a plane and will likely infect a bunch of people yourself?

Colds happen. Short of living in total isolation, it's a fact of life. I guarantee you will not be innocent in your cold-incubation period, and will probably be directly responsible for making at least a few others sick. C'est la vie.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you leave when you saw they were sick? It's rude for them not to disclose beforehand, but not rude for you to leave once you find out.

[Anonymous]

... physically and psychologically. These things happen, but maybe a few days in a sunny, warm climate will help you feel better.

Try to have a Happy New Year!

[Anonymous]

I'm 20:14. Maybe I misunderstood the first time, because on second reading, it seems maybe they showed up sick to your house. If that's the case, you couldn't leave, but you could ask them to please go home since they are obviously sick, and you could have a celebration at a later date. Gotta stand up for yourself. If you don't, you can only blame you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're complaining about the in-laws making you sick, but you're still going on a plane and will likely infect a bunch of people yourself?

Colds happen. Short of living in total isolation, it's a fact of life. I guarantee you will not be innocent in your cold-incubation period, and will probably be directly responsible for making at least a few others sick. C'est la vie.

When you are a guest in someone's home, it's common courtesy to let them know if you are sick, so you can give others the choice as to whether or not they should have you. These are the same people who would not let us know when they were sick, and infect my asthmatic daughter, throwing her life - and ours - into sleepless hell for a couple weeks at a time. They did not believe she had asthma you see, so it was never really a problem in their eyes.


When not coughing nor snotting, I should not infect people. I am very careful about using wipes, etc. to make sure I keep surfaces clean and disinfected. When outside, the transmission rate of the common cold is very low, around 10%, according to my daughter's pulmonologist. Covering one's nose and mouth goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you leave when you saw they were sick? It's rude for them not to disclose beforehand, but not rude for you to leave once you find out.

It's my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 20:14. Maybe I misunderstood the first time, because on second reading, it seems maybe they showed up sick to your house. If that's the case, you couldn't leave, but you could ask them to please go home since they are obviously sick, and you could have a celebration at a later date. Gotta stand up for yourself. If you don't, you can only blame you.

My husband was in denial they were sick. I stayed away from them as much as I could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 20:14. Maybe I misunderstood the first time, because on second reading, it seems maybe they showed up sick to your house. If that's the case, you couldn't leave, but you could ask them to please go home since they are obviously sick, and you could have a celebration at a later date. Gotta stand up for yourself. If you don't, you can only blame you.

My husband was in denial they were sick. I stayed away from them as much as I could.

So what? You can only talk when your husband says it's all right? It's YOUR health. YOU should have said something.

[Anonymous]

Do you touch door knobs? Elevator buttons? ATMs? If so, then get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 20:14. Maybe I misunderstood the first time, because on second reading, it seems maybe they showed up sick to your house. If that's the case, you couldn't leave, but you could ask them to please go home since they are obviously sick, and you could have a celebration at a later date. Gotta stand up for yourself. If you don't, you can only blame you.

My husband was in denial they were sick. I stayed away from them as much as I could.

So what? You can only talk when your husband says it's all right? It's YOUR health. YOU should have said something.

I did. I can't force them to leave. It's my husband's house too.

Get off the feminist kick. It's not becoming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you touch door knobs? Elevator buttons? ATMs? If so, then get over yourself.

Which doesn't matter if your hands aren't all in your nose and mouth. Why do you think kids are the main transmitters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you touch door knobs? Elevator buttons? ATMs? If so, then get over yourself.

Yes, OP is a bitch, bitch, bitch. Colds happen. You probably got the virus b/f they even showed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 20:14. Maybe I misunderstood the first time, because on second reading, it seems maybe they showed up sick to your house. If that's the case, you couldn't leave, but you could ask them to please go home since they are obviously sick, and you could have a celebration at a later date. Gotta stand up for yourself. If you don't, you can only blame you.

My husband was in denial they were sick. I stayed away from them as much as I could.

So what? You can only talk when your husband says it's all right? It's YOUR health. YOU should have said something.

I did. I can't force them to leave. It's my husband's house too.

Get off the feminist kick. It's not becoming.

Neither is being sick. Taking responsibility for your health is not feminism, it's common sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you touch door knobs? Elevator buttons? ATMs? If so, then get over yourself.

+1

OP, you sound very dramatic. You got sick. You will unquestionably continue the domino effect to a few people. No one likes being sick and it's always a pain, but really, get over yourself. Hopefully you'll announce to everyone on the plane that you're sick, and bring facemasks for everyone in a 10 foot radius on the flight. That's the polite thing to do, right?