Should I buy a replacement gift?

[Anonymous]

So we have two elementary-aged kids and my DSD (early 20s), who lives in another state. I normally buy all the gifts for everyone, but this year, DH asked what I was getting DSD and I replied that I was going to buy her some clothes, and he said he's do it. Fine. I didn't think about it again.

Today we opened gifts and I realized that the only thing he got her was a workout shirt from Costco. She wasn't a jerk about it, but I felt like she was pretty disappointed. On the one hand, money is tight and my DH is being an ass and has somehow decided to be mad at ME that she didn't get more gifts. On the other hand, she is a great sister to my kids and I don't want her to have a lame Christmas.

Should I buy something else, and if so, what?

[Anonymous]

Gift card.

[Anonymous]

Agree with gift card up to the amount you would have spent if you had bought DSD the clothes minus the cost of the Costco shirt. It will be awkward though because it is obviously an after thought.

[Anonymous]

Send her a giftcard to her favorite store with a sweet note. & pull your husband aside and ask him WTF he was thinking?! If he wasn't going to shop for her he should have just said so!

[Anonymous]

I think you should let dsd know that DH wanted to pick out a gift for her. Put a positive spin on it. Tell her you thought that was sweet of him, but you didn't realize he doesn't quite know what to get for girls her age. Let her know you'd love to get her something else too, but that you thought it would be nice to let DH get her gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should let dsd know that DH wanted to pick out a gift for her. Put a positive spin on it. Tell her you thought that was sweet of him, but you didn't realize he doesn't quite know what to get for girls her age. Let her know you'd love to get her something else too, but that you thought it would be nice to let DH get her gift.

Good advice. Very diplomatic.

[Anonymous]

Gift card. Run out to a grocery store or drug store. Now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gift card. Run out to a grocery store or drug store. Now.

Unfortunately, she is visiting her mom for Christmas dinner and will be there for two days, but I think I will hit the mall tomorrow and see if there is anything on sale she would like. If not, I will grab a GC, and I like the PP's advice to spin it as, "Your dad really wanted to pick your gift, but I think he just was overwhelmed. I wanted to give you something more suitable to a woman your age."

[Anonymous]

Amazon gift card. E-delivery. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should let dsd know that DH wanted to pick out a gift for her. Put a positive spin on it. Tell her you thought that was sweet of him, but you didn't realize he doesn't quite know what to get for girls her age. Let her know you'd love to get her something else too, but that you thought it would be nice to let DH get her gift.

Yep, this is how you play it, "See, that's what happens when I let Daddy go shopping alone"
Say it with a laugh, make it an inside joke between you 2 girls.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you ask him what he got for her? You passed the buck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you should let dsd know that DH wanted to pick out a gift for her. Put a positive spin on it. Tell her you thought that was sweet of him, but you didn't realize he doesn't quite know what to get for girls her age. Let her know you'd love to get her something else too, but that you thought it would be nice to let DH get her gift.

Yep, this is how you play it, "See, that's what happens when I let Daddy go shopping alone"
Say it with a laugh, make it an inside joke between you 2 girls.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you ask him what he got for her? You passed the buck.

Maybe because he's an adult and it's his daughter and OP isn't responsible for his inability to shop.