s/o: Obnoxious things your DH says

[Anonymous]

Spinning off from the Gisele Bundchen thread...

I'll start:
"Can't we just throw another one together while we're at it?" (said when I bake or cook something that clearly cannot just be "thrown together" -- and there's no "we" about it at all-- it's just me.)

"How did you get to be an adult without knowing this?" (When he says this, I think, "The bigger question is how did I get to be an adult without knowing how to spot a mega-douche like you a mile away.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spinning off from the Gisele Bundchen thread...

I'll start:
"Can't we just throw another one together while we're at it?" (said when I bake or cook something that clearly cannot just be "thrown together" -- and there's no "we" about it at all-- it's just me.)

"How did you get to be an adult without knowing this?" (When he says this, I think, "The bigger question is how did I get to be an adult without knowing how to spot a mega-douche like you a mile away.)

I don't know, but my wife often has a "and what kind of idiot are you" tone in her voice when she speaks to me and the children. i don't think what you describe is typical of "husbands" but rather assholes of both genders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinning off from the Gisele Bundchen thread...

I'll start:
"Can't we just throw another one together while we're at it?" (said when I bake or cook something that clearly cannot just be "thrown together" -- and there's no "we" about it at all-- it's just me.)

"How did you get to be an adult without knowing this?" (When he says this, I think, "The bigger question is how did I get to be an adult without knowing how to spot a mega-douche like you a mile away.)

I don't know, but my wife often has a "and what kind of idiot are you" tone in her voice when she speaks to me and the children. i don't think what you describe is typical of "husbands" but rather assholes of both genders.

Fair point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spinning off from the Gisele Bundchen thread...

I'll start:
"Can't we just throw another one together while we're at it?" (said when I bake or cook something that clearly cannot just be "thrown together" -- and there's no "we" about it at all-- it's just me.)

"How did you get to be an adult without knowing this?" (When he says this, I think, "The bigger question is how did I get to be an adult without knowing how to spot a mega-douche like you a mile away.)

You just think or you tell him that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spinning off from the Gisele Bundchen thread...

I'll start:
"Can't we just throw another one together while we're at it?" (said when I bake or cook something that clearly cannot just be "thrown together" -- and there's no "we" about it at all-- it's just me.)

"How did you get to be an adult without knowing this?" (When he says this, I think, "The bigger question is how did I get to be an adult without knowing how to spot a mega-douche like you a mile away.)

You just think or you tell him that?

Just think it. For now.

[Anonymous]

"Do you live under a rock?"

[Anonymous]

"Why am I the only one who cares about keeping the house clean?" To be fair-- he usually does do more of the kitchen and toy clean up-- but it is ALWAYS when I am tending to the kids-- so I give the baths, he cleans the kitchen-- I put the kids to bed, he cleans up the living room-- he cooks dinner, I take the kids out back to get some energy out. It makes me SO mad. If he is going to make it seem like he does everything, I might as well just sit on my a** eating bon bons.

[Anonymous]

"WE forgot to hide away the food on the stove...do you think it's still fresh, or should I toss it?"

- DH every time HE gets home late from work and doesn't hide away the leftovers, letting them go bad while I am busy with the kids.

I don't understand why men just can't admit they eff up and do something wrong. Instead it's always "WE."

[Anonymous]

"You need to be an adult." When he says this, I actually see red.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why am I the only one who cares about keeping the house clean?" To be fair-- he usually does do more of the kitchen and toy clean up-- but it is ALWAYS when I am tending to the kids-- so I give the baths, he cleans the kitchen-- I put the kids to bed, he cleans up the living room-- he cooks dinner, I take the kids out back to get some energy out. It makes me SO mad. If he is going to make it seem like he does everything, I might as well just sit on my a** eating bon bons.

Oh good grief, many wives do the bath, etc. and then still walk down to a messy kitchen/main floor while their DH stares at the tube.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why am I the only one who cares about keeping the house clean?" To be fair-- he usually does do more of the kitchen and toy clean up-- but it is ALWAYS when I am tending to the kids-- so I give the baths, he cleans the kitchen-- I put the kids to bed, he cleans up the living room-- he cooks dinner, I take the kids out back to get some energy out. It makes me SO mad. If he is going to make it seem like he does everything, I might as well just sit on my a** eating bon bons.

I have the same problem. I am thrilled he does more housework than me, but I cannot take the chip on his shoulder about it. I'm not "off-duty" until 10 pm most nights while he finishes up the dishes and crawls into bed by 8 to watch TV. He is not interested in splitting up duties more equitably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Why am I the only one who cares about keeping the house clean?" To be fair-- he usually does do more of the kitchen and toy clean up-- but it is ALWAYS when I am tending to the kids-- so I give the baths, he cleans the kitchen-- I put the kids to bed, he cleans up the living room-- he cooks dinner, I take the kids out back to get some energy out. It makes me SO mad. If he is going to make it seem like he does everything, I might as well just sit on my a** eating bon bons.

Oh good grief, many wives do the bath, etc. and then still walk down to a messy kitchen/main floor while their DH stares at the tube.

So you're saying her standards are too high? That she should fall all over herself thanking DH for doing housework while she takes care of the kids, and in return swallow his snotty (and inaccurate) comments?

[Anonymous]

Oh yes, the proverbial "WE" whenever DH does something wrong:

"We forgot to do the dishes last night"
"We forgot to take out the trash."
"We forgot to brush the kids teeth this morning."

All when DH knows very well that these are his responsibilities since I am doing other things. I don't understand why WE cannot ever be "I."

It's so annoyingly passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else have a Mr. Scapegoater who tries to blame things on you all the time?

DH accidentally left the refrigerator door open and some of the food spoiled....instead of apologizing (since i grocery shop and pay for food) his classic response is:

"Well, if you hadn't put so much food in it, the door would have closed properly."

How about a simple, "I'm sorry, I thought the door closed but it wasn't and I made a mistake."

Do all men scapegoat constantly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Why am I the only one who cares about keeping the house clean?" To be fair-- he usually does do more of the kitchen and toy clean up-- but it is ALWAYS when I am tending to the kids-- so I give the baths, he cleans the kitchen-- I put the kids to bed, he cleans up the living room-- he cooks dinner, I take the kids out back to get some energy out. It makes me SO mad. If he is going to make it seem like he does everything, I might as well just sit on my a** eating bon bons.

Oh good grief, many wives do the bath, etc. and then still walk down to a messy kitchen/main floor while their DH stares at the tube.

So you're saying her standards are too high? That she should fall all over herself thanking DH for doing housework while she takes care of the kids, and in return swallow his snotty (and inaccurate) comments?

No, I'm just asking whether she'd prefer to the do the dishes, etc. rather than give the kids a bath. I've found a lot of SAHMs have an enormous chip on their shoulder about housework, which is actually a part of their job description.