Singles Dating Thread - Please Share!

[Anonymous]

So I know there are some single ladies and men on DCUM. Let's start a dating thread!

For me, I am starting anew right now. I was dating one guy who was great on paper, great chemistry initially, but I saw some red flags (gambled more often that I was comfortable with, pressuring for a commitment from the start, trying to "buy" affection). I felt like what initially seemed like someone who went boldly after whom they wanted could also be signs of impulsive behavior. I told my male BFF who said to cut my losses. I decided for once to take his advice as he is always right in the end.lol

I have a potential crush on this guy at work. What I do know so far is he's mid 30s, attractive, Southerner, quiet and stays to himself, and he doesn't wear a ring. I rarely see him, however, and don't have any reason to go into his office. We've both recently moved abroad and are working in the same building. Considering how private I am (and he seems to be as well), it's been difficult finding information on him. We have talked once and he introduced himself so I know his name. We speak now as a result when I see him, but I have only seen him twice since then (this was 2 weeks ago). I wish i could verify his marital status indirectly. There are enough married expats around without rings here for me to not assume that he's single. He told me that he was going home for Christmas so I would ask about that somehow if I ever actually ran into him. Any advice?

Anyone else that would like to share?

[Anonymous]

Is your male bff gay? If not, he secretly wants to bang you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your male bff gay? If not, he secretly wants to bang you.

Not all non-gay male bff want to bang you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I know there are some single ladies and men on DCUM. Let's start a dating thread!

For me, I am starting anew right now. I was dating one guy who was great on paper, great chemistry initially, but I saw some red flags (gambled more often that I was comfortable with, pressuring for a commitment from the start, trying to "buy" affection). I felt like what initially seemed like someone who went boldly after whom they wanted could also be signs of impulsive behavior. I told my male BFF who said to cut my losses. I decided for once to take his advice as he is always right in the end.lol

I have a potential crush on this guy at work. What I do know so far is he's mid 30s, attractive, Southerner, quiet and stays to himself, and he doesn't wear a ring. I rarely see him, however, and don't have any reason to go into his office. We've both recently moved abroad and are working in the same building. Considering how private I am (and he seems to be as well), it's been difficult finding information on him. We have talked once and he introduced himself so I know his name. We speak now as a result when I see him, but I have only seen him twice since then (this was 2 weeks ago). I wish i could verify his marital status indirectly. There are enough married expats around without rings here for me to not assume that he's single. He told me that he was going home for Christmas so I would ask about that somehow if I ever actually ran into him. Any advice?

Anyone else that would like to share?

Can't you ask someone else at work if he is single? I would. How about lunch? Any patterns you can pick to meet him on the elevator or at a place that he would go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your male bff gay? If not, he secretly wants to bang you.

He's not gay and he doesn't want me. We knew each other as kids and he is like family. In addition to telling me who is not a good match, he's urged me to date or reconsider other guys before as well.

To the PP, I work in a fishbowl so asking around about cutie's marital status would start the rumor mill. Nobody knows him outside of his office because he doesn't socialize much. Nice guy, but keeps to himself. That's part of why I've wondered if he's married. The other downside is I definitely wouldn't want his colleagues to know because the only woman working in his office used to be my closest girlfriend here until I realized she's a liar and a big gossip. I wouldn't want her to find out and tell him something false and off-putting about me. It's probably a blessing in disguise that I'm aware of her character already because she would've been the first person I contacted for info about him.

If I could run into him, I'd ask him about the holidays (he said he was going home for Christmas) and try to gauge who he will spend them with. I have a reason to go to his office tomorrow though I am clueless of where he sits. It's worth a try.lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your male bff gay? If not, he secretly wants to bang you.

Not all non-gay male bff want to bang you.

actually, if they're straight, they do, fact. Though there are many closeted BFFs out there, PP may be example, nothing wrong with it, but it's a fact.

[Anonymous]

You bring up a good point about patterns. The cafeteria is probably where I have seen him most often and I stopped eating down there regularly a couple months ago. He is always there with office colleagues, but there are a couple that I know and always chat with briefly when we cross paths. I could figure out when he generally eats lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your male bff gay? If not, he secretly wants to bang you.

Not all non-gay male bff want to bang you.

actually, if they're straight, they do, fact. Though there are many closeted BFFs out there, PP may be example, nothing wrong with it, but it's a fact.

Well we've been single at the same time a few times. He's about to propose to his GF. He's not the sensitive guy in my ear, he's the asshole, give it to you straight, brotherly type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your male bff gay? If not, he secretly wants to bang you.

Not all non-gay male bff want to bang you.

Yes they do. I was single for a while. Find a great guy and started having a serious relationship with him. All of a sudden, all my male friends disappeared. Why? I reached out to a couple of them months and months later. Fact, they wanted to be with me, as a relationship, or fuck me.