Have You Monitored Spouses Calls? If so How?

[Anonymous]

DW has a work issued phone. I suspect an affair and want to know about her incoming and outgoing calls. Can you tell me how to do this without getting caught? Thanks

[Anonymous]

You should just confront her with your suspicions. Marriages thrive on openness and transparency and if you add to the sneaky behavior it will only complicate matters.

[Anonymous]

It is pretty hard to monitor work phones.

What you can do if you are pretty sure she is having an affair and just need the evidence is to hide a Voice Activated Recorder (VAR) in the house/her car. that way if she is talking to him while driving or from the house when you aren't there you might get evidence. If she is talking to him only from work on her work phone, I don't know how you would monitor that.

You might want to post on the Just Found Our board over at www.survivinginfidelity.com. You can post the behaviors that are making you suspicious and get good advice on what are real red flags and what might not be, and ideas for how to proceed.

Does she know you are concerned she is having an affair?

[Anonymous]

Just hire a PI.

[Anonymous]

It's a work issued cell phone. Confronted. Denied.

[Anonymous]

You can't really do much unless you know the password to her phone and look at it while she's in the shower. I would hire a PI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should just confront her with your suspicions. Marriages thrive on openness and transparency and if you add to the sneaky behavior it will only complicate matters.

When there is suspicion and evidence of an affair, then openness and transparency are already out the window and you are dealing with lying, deceiving, manipulating, cheating behavior. Marriages don't thrive on one person being open and honest when the other is void of moral character. In those cases the cheater just takes advantage of the openness and honesty and uses it to gaslight and manipulate the honest spouse.

[Anonymous]

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should just confront her with your suspicions. Marriages thrive on openness and transparency and if you add to the sneaky behavior it will only complicate matters.

When there is suspicion and evidence of an affair, then openness and transparency are already out the window and you are dealing with lying, deceiving, manipulating, cheating behavior. Marriages don't thrive on one person being open and honest when the other is void of moral character. In those cases the cheater just takes advantage of the openness and honesty and uses it to gaslight and manipulate the honest spouse.

Exactly right.

[Anonymous]

Do not pass go. Go directly to jail

[Anonymous]

SIM card reader.

[Anonymous]

The best way, which is not entirely legal, is to clone the phone. It's not hard to do (google it). Whatever you find is not admissible but that's not the point - yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't really do much unless you know the password to her phone and look at it while she's in the shower. I would hire a PI.

Do you have one to recommend? How do they work? How much donthry cost?
I do have password. I can see the number. Calls at odd times. Person who answere denies knowledge of my spouse. I am not convinced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't really do much unless you know the password to her phone and look at it while she's in the shower. I would hire a PI.

Better not be a US government issued cell you access.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't really do much unless you know the password to her phone and look at it while she's in the shower. I would hire a PI.

Do you have one to recommend? How do they work? How much donthry cost?
I do have password. I can see the number. Calls at odd times. Person who answere denies knowledge of my spouse. I am not convinced.

If you have the number get a background run on it. Dummy