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Anonymous
| Met 6 men on okcupid so far. All fine/nice but just not that interested in any. Is this how it goes....keep meeting till someone really sparks my interest. Or at I not over my last boyfriend yet...comparing them. No one seems as interesting as him. But maybe they just aren't. |
Anonymous
| Try Match.com as well. Have a male friend review your profile and pics. Yes, it goes like this. Lots of men online are just trolling for sex, so keep a positive attitude and try to filter those ones out. If you are putting yourself out there too early after the breakup, keep in mind that it all will sting a bit more than if you were really over your ex. |
Anonymous
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OP: thanks
Seems like alot of the same people are on match as OK cupid. Is it really different in any way? And yes, dating might sting for awhile. Was hoping dating would help me move on too... |
Anonymous
| Stop comparing them to your ex. It isn't fair to them or you. I've been there. Did you spark with him immediately? Sparks make fire. In a bad way. Give yourself time....don't expect to immediately be in love with someone from the first message. |
Anonymous
| Yes, that's how it goes. You keep meeting people until you find one who strikes your fancy, and vice-verse. |
Anonymous
Why do you assume she's not trolling for sex too? We all need to get laid. |
Anonymous
OP: I'm not trolling for sex although I do miss it. And I don't think any of the men I met were either...think I'm ok at screening those folks out. Just hard..and after a few weeks on the site not seeing alot of other men I am optimistic about. I know, chin up and keep trying.... |
Anonymous
why is your ex your ex? |
Anonymous
| What is the main problem with the guys you're meeting? |
Anonymous
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My experience: 95% a no-go from the start. 5% seemed like a good match. Went out with those. Weeded out half of those after a first date. Then I started feeling depressed that there was no match for me. Those left seemed great on paper and were fine in person, but I just didn't click. Until I met one 9 friggin moths later. He was great.
A lot of work, but the ending was worth it. However, I went two years without dating after my last boyfriend, and spent the time trying to figure out why I chose men where relationships never progressed toward marriage. I was WAY over him once I started dating again. If you aren't, you might want to take a little break. |
Anonymous
| It took many first dates with some ok guys, some blah guys, some horny guys, some psycho guys, etc. I called it quits. I deleted my profile. A couple months later, decided to try again and bingo, found my guy. Shockingly, we had sex on the second date. Was amazing too! My point is, throw out the timelines, throw out the high expectations, do what feels right! |
Anonymous
he broke up with me. i thought it was going well. blindsided. admit i'm a bit panicked about never having that kind of intimacy again...might not be a good way to approach dating but not trying seems completely depressing to me. |
Anonymous
ouch. yeah i don't know what to say other than to keep an open minded. no one wants to compete with the past. |