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Anonymous
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Hate when women start asking about their dating situation?
I've been seeing this man for a few months now, we've been acing a great time, spending more & more time together as well as talk several times a day. We've never talked about what we want out of this, it's just been fun hanging out. Well, after a few too glasses of wine I asked him what we were doing- are we just friends, friends w/ benefits, etc. He really couldn't give me an answer. This morning I felt stressed that I even brought it up. I called him to see if I had scared him away, he said we were good but I could tell in his voice something was different. He usually calls me every evening and I haven't heard from him tonight. I've decided to lay low and not call/text so that I don't look needy, suffocating, etc. I'm worried though that maybe I ruined it. Men any insight or advice? |
Anonymous
| If he can't handle a dtr after three months of dating, he's not the one |
Anonymous
| You'll work harder to please him if your relationship status is ambiguous. |
Anonymous
It's been 3 months. If you haven't decided to become exclusive after three weeks or so, it's unlikely. By three months in, he should know if you're girlfriend material or not. N-e-x-t! 
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Anonymous
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There are lots of red flags here.
1) You barely know each other yet you talk several times a day. You don't know this, but I'm going to tell you - you are very needy. Slow your roll. 2) You aren't clear about the status of your relationship, and it's been months? Something is wrong here - probably either you acting too easy and just hopping right in bed, or him being a sleeze bag and you have a horrible picker, or actually, probably both. 3) There's no need for any more talking points. You need to really re-evaluate how you select your men, how soon you jump in the sack, and whether you smother them too much while at the same time being unable to do what most normal women do which is at least expect to be BF and GF if you are having sex and talking every day. |
Anonymous
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+1 to all of the above
1) Move on, he's just not that into you 2) Men do this because you will try harder to please him if things are ambiguous or if you're worried a normal but serious discussion will turn him into grumpy cat 3) MOVE ON. If he isn't serious after three months he never will be |
Anonymous
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Wow, read the consensus here. To recap:
He's not the one. Please don't be easy. Make men earn your company. Don't just hop into bed!!! Stop calling and texting. For gods sakes, just stop. If he wants to hear from you he will call. If he doesn't take the hint. |
Anonymous
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Any man who after several months can't tell you point blank that he wants to be with you, just needs to be dumped. He wants you when he wants you. Not relationship material.
Have some self-respect and stop and answering if he ever calls. You deserve better. |
Anonymous
| He's already shown you loud and clear he isn't interested in being exclusive or long term. He doesn't need to tell you. |
Anonymous
| Get a boob job. Make sure he knows somehow. Don't call him. Wait for explosion. |
Anonymous
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Free milk, cow, etc.
Don't be a bitch and make him jump through hoops to be with you, but don't be the good time girl he can always call at 11pm. |
Anonymous
3 weeks? shit that's fast. crazy woman. 3-5 months is good though so OP should get a fair answer or not. |
Anonymous
+1. Mine asked repeatedly if I'd be his girlfriend after about 3 dates. I needed the 3 weeks, he didn't. He said he knew and didn't like to play games.We made it official 3 weeks after 1st date, had known each other a little longer.Still going strong...and expecting. |
Anonymous
| Men hate it when you ask about other relationships if they are seeing someone else at the same time. |
Anonymous
| My brother actually told me this onetime. He said if a guy wants something to happen, you'll know. If you need to ask, the answer is no. Sorry. |