If you are divorced with children....

[Anonymous]

... and there was no infidelity or abuse in your marriage, what led you to make the final decision to divorce? How painful was the process and how would you describe your co-parenting relationship with your ex?

[Anonymous]

I don't think there is ever one moment for anyone - I think it is when you've reached the point where things are irretrievable broken and you just can't take it anymore. For me, the process was freeing and made me full of hope for the future, though I was sad (and still am) that the kids can't grow up in an intact family.

Co-parenting is good, bad and ugly. In some ways, since we no longer live with each other and don't have shared lives/finances, it is easier because there is a lot less anger. However, most of the SOS that my ex did during the marriage continues, so all I can do is hope for "adequate" parenting, and that I can make up for whatever screw-ups happen on ex's days.