When a siblings relationship implodes

[Anonymous]

It looks like my brother will be divorcing--his choice. She wants to keep trying. But they have been miserable. I feel sad that this person I have known for years and years will suddenly be gone on Christmas. It's so sad. Do you have friendships with former in laws? Is there anything I can do for her that might help?

[Anonymous]

yes, try to stay neutral and don't burn any bridges or say anything you'll regret should they reunite.

[Anonymous]

Lots of divorces in my family. I've stayed friends with all of the ex's. They don't come for holidays anymore, but if it's a kids event everyone is there or if I go into town to visit my family, I always at least have breakfast with them.

[Anonymous]

You can stay in touch a bit. You can treat her like a friend - stay in touch on Facebook, chat sometimes. Just not a super close friend, because that is too awkward with regard to your brother.

But yeah - she's not going to be part of your family anymore, and there's no way around that. It's a really sad part of divorce, and you're right to grieve it.