stood up

[Anonymous]

I was supposed to go out with this guy I like for our first date this Saturday, he had scheduled it two weeks in advance. I was really looking forward to this date because I know we already like each other and I don't know, maybe my expectations were too high... He stood me up, texted me the next day saying he had fallen asleep and wanted to know how he could make it up to me. I was kinda crushed, how can I give him another chance at this point? Because sleeping through the date pretty much reads to me as, "I am just not that in to you" ...right? I am pretty sure he does not have a medical condition and he is in his late thirties. I still feel like shit two days later, I know I have a right to be upset but I also think I took this way too personally and feel heartbroken even though we haven't gone on one date!

Any advice is appreciated

[Anonymous]

Late thirties and fell asleep. Definitely move on and look for a healthier specimen.

[Anonymous]

Damn, he didnt even call before hand to cancel? And then he texted you rather than call? I dunno. I think I'd ignore the text. See if he calls but even then....

[Anonymous]

What he did was disrespectful and dickish. Getting forgotten or ignored absolutely sucks. How you feel is normal, IMO.

Find someone else.

[Anonymous]

Falling asleep could happen, maybe he had a crazy week. But not even calling the next day? Just texting? I'd probably ignore it and move on.

I'd be stung, for sure, but the annoyance at the text would override that sting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What he did was disrespectful and dickish. Getting forgotten or ignored absolutely sucks. How you feel is normal, IMO.

Find someone else.

Yeah, don't reward bad behavior. He showed you who he is, believe it.

[Anonymous]

Ignore him and move on.

[Anonymous]

I will break from the pack on this one. I would not be insulted by the text. If they are in the habit of communicating that way, it seems perfectly normal to me. I strongly dislike talking on the phone, so text is fine with me.

OP, what COULD he do to make it up to you? If I was you, and still wanted to see him, I would say something along the lines of "I was pretty upset that you stood me up, but I am interested in you and would like to try again." Then suggest the activity that YOU would like.

If you really like him, recognize that sometimes things happen. If it happens again, cut him off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late thirties and fell asleep. Definitely move on and look for a healthier specimen.

+1

[Anonymous]

He is old, APA age, with declining health. Move onto something younger, cuter and more responsible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will break from the pack on this one. I would not be insulted by the text. If they are in the habit of communicating that way, it seems perfectly normal to me. I strongly dislike talking on the phone, so text is fine with me.

OP, what COULD he do to make it up to you? If I was you, and still wanted to see him, I would say something along the lines of "I was pretty upset that you stood me up, but I am interested in you and would like to try again." Then suggest the activity that YOU would like.

If you really like him, recognize that sometimes things happen. If it happens again, cut him off.

Do you realize he texted the next day, not the day of the date?

Pp, I would love to know how old you are, whether you are a man or a woman, and whether you are in a happy relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will break from the pack on this one. I would not be insulted by the text. If they are in the habit of communicating that way, it seems perfectly normal to me. I strongly dislike talking on the phone, so text is fine with me.

OP, what COULD he do to make it up to you? If I was you, and still wanted to see him, I would say something along the lines of "I was pretty upset that you stood me up, but I am interested in you and would like to try again." Then suggest the activity that YOU would like.

If you really like him, recognize that sometimes things happen. If it happens again, cut him off.

Do you realize he texted the next day, not the day of the date?

Pp, I would love to know how old you are, whether you are a man or a woman, and whether you are in a happy relationship.

I assumed that a Saturday date was an evening date, and that the man in question fell asleep and woke up the next morning, at which point he texted. While a text itself would not bother me, a text in the middle of the night from someone who stood me up would bother me, as by that point I would myself be asleep.

I'm a woman, 33 years old, in a happy relationship, not that that has anything to do with anything.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't bode well, OP.
Nip it in the bud and tell him you wish him well but won't be scheduling another date. As PP said, he has shown you who he is, and all you really lost is a (false) fantasy of what you might have had with him. It sucks, but he did you a favor.
Falling asleep is completely lame (if it's even true ) and to not contact you the next day is incredibly disrespectful. Don't take it personally, whatever is going on with him has nothing to do with you. If you give him another chance you are disrespecting yourself. And he doesn't deserve one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is old, APA age, with declining health. Move onto something younger, cuter and more responsible.

Late 30s is old now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is old, APA age, with declining health. Move onto something younger, cuter and more responsible.

Late 30s is old now?

For men too. It's always been the case for women.