Husband Never Finishes
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Anonymous
| He initiates sex almost every day and sometimes twice a day but here's the thing: he NEVER completes. He stays up and I get off sometimes, sometimes he just gets tired and stops. He tries to get me off. I'm open to him touching himself or whatever to finish but he always declines. Is he gay? We are TTC but I'm not sure how easy that will be given his situation. No kids yet. We dated a year before getting married, and I never thought this would be a big issue but it's starting to seem strange. Only been married a year. If you suggest a therapist, what's the nicest, non-ego crushing way to bring this up? |
Anonymous
| Is he on any medication? |
Anonymous
| No, he's not on any medication but he takes a lot of vitamins. |
Anonymous
| Does he finish if/when he masterbates? |
Anonymous
| Porn addict? |
Anonymous
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TTC gives you the perfect opportunity to raise this issue. You can't conceive without sperm so I am not sure why you are saying you are TTC. Are you hoping pre-ejaculate does the trick? Be very factual. Find out from him if this has been a life long problem? Has he finished with other partners? Does he finish if he masturbates? Why does he think this is an issue.
You married the man and want kids with him. You need to be able to have conversations about sex. You don't need to put him down, or make it about him. Don't go overboard with how awesome he is... just talk factually. |
Anonymous
He says he does but he has never done it in front of me. But I have in front of him. |
Anonymous
Not that I know of, and I looked thoroughly for any "evidence". |
Anonymous
| It is called delayed ejaculation. There are many possible underlying causes. I would start with a full physical. |
Anonymous
This is good advice, thanks |
Anonymous
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I would make sure he isn't getting off elsewhere. If he finished up in the shower afterwards and then initiates sex the next day, he'll be less likely to finish than if you make him go the full day without finishing. You can make it "cute" or "flirty" but don't let him finish between sessions with you.
There could be a myriad of reasons, but an unusual fetish or porn addiction could be a cause. The part I find odd is how often he initiates sex if he doesn't finish - I would think that would be incredibly frustrating to a typical male. Perhaps he gets off on you getting off? I'd investigate things and then try to have a non threatening conversation, or else try to get drunk together and see what he'll do to you / himself if you give him the opportunity... But tread lightly with questioning his sexual orientation. If you thought he might have had performance anxiety prior to this, wait until you accidentally let slip you think he's gay... |
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You need to tak openly about it with him. Are you sure he is board with ttc? If so, that's not going to happen without him ejaculatig inside you. Did he have this problem before marriage ? Will he finish with a blowjob or pull out and finish on you?
I would talk to him using the ttc angle and insist that he sees a doctor. |
Anonymous
| Does he finish via other methods with you? |
Anonymous
| it seems that he is trying to please you by having sex everyday but there is something amiss. He is either withholding organism on purpose or simply cannot do it. |
Anonymous
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Why the euphanism "finish" -- can we say "orgasm" or "ejaculates" or something?
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