Spouse and I are going through a really, really hard time. We've tried two therapists in the past 18 months and neither has worked out (one was a crackpot, and one was way too far from our work and home, and the commutes were causing more stress than the therapy resolved...plus, we have an infant now and the logistics of doing this with a baby are far more complicated).
We really need to work with a counselor, but I have scoured our provider directory and online resources and come up pretty empty. I have read the Gottman books and Hold Me Tight and I think an EFT or Gottman-style focus would really help us, but at this point I'm open to anything. I would really appreciate it if anyone who has worked with a good counselor could drop a name!!! THANK YOU! |
http://lindarogersphd.com/
we worked with Angela Hubner at this office and we really liked her. good luck. |
Gloria Mog - she is trained in IMAGO therapy which was very helpful for my husband and me. Good luck. |
IMAGO was a nightmare for us. And Gottman has nothing to do with it. |
Would love to hear more about your experience. Did you find Gottman helpful? Or anything else? |
Sorry, I didn't express that well. What I meant was, IMAGO did not work AT ALL for us. It felt very rote and stiff and overall very ineffective. To my knowledge there are no studies supporting its efficacy. Gottman OTOH has done boatloads of clinicial-based research on what makes marriages work/fail. If you can find a counselor who uses Gottman methods for counseling I imagine it would be helpful (in contrast to IMAGO). I'm afraid I don't have any recs for that, but I do recommend you avoid IMAGO. |
Kathryn Rheem is amazing, she trained me in EFT. Hard to get an appt, but her site lists many others she has trained. John Goll is wonderful with men but far out. Anyone on this list has been trained by Kathryn or Linda Rogers, both excellent.
http://washingtonbaltimorecenterforeft.com/efttherapistsinva.html |
http://johngollcounseling.com/
John Goll is great with withdrawn men and infidelity issues in particular, but he is out in Herndon. Worth the drive. I am a therapists and refer to him often. |
OP here - thank you for the recommendations! I'll follow up if/when we meet with someone with a recommendation if it works out well. Fingers crossed. |