My wife and I have been married 5 years she is eight years younger. Ever since we have been married we made a game of her telling me about men and what they would do sexually. The last guy she went alot further telling me she thought mostly about talking with him and making out with him. I hurt by this. Any comments welcome |
Troll alert |
umm...well this seemed like a bad idea from the start so you can't really be surprised at the recent turn of events. |
+1. What were you thinking was going to happen? |
He was balls deep in her. You know this, right? |
+2 Say what, OP? Did you think this was going to go some other way? |
Hunh? I don't get the game. Is this what she has done before marriage, what is is doing now, or what she hopes to do? |
I told her when we married it was a fantasy of mine to think of her with another guy,so she would make up storys about doing sexual things with guys. This one is different though, she went into detail about a guy she met at church. My fantasy turned into her fantasy, she even told me she plays with herself while thinking of their "date" |
I think you're missing OP's point? I thought he was saying he was fine (and encouraged) learning about what his wife had done sexually in the past, but when his wife said she missed more emotionally intimate moments with her past lover, he got hurt. Or am I misunderstanding? |
You're good if you deciphered that...I thought she was sharing fantasies, and then started talking about a real man from her past. |
I think it got too real b/c wifey talked not about a fantasy in the abstract (i.e., 'just some guy') but rather a guy who she knows in real life (church) and what she would do to him/what he would do to her - and she gets off thinking about that other REAL guy. again, OP, what did you think was going to happen - you opened Pandora's box, led your wife it, had her reach in, and now you're upset? ![]() |
You can't possibly respect your wife at all if you fantasize about other men being with her. |
Oh shut up. What a vanilla fantasy. |
DH encouraged me to do something like this when were dating and he was cool with it. Shortly after we were married, he suddenly became jealous and started calling me a slut and a whore.
Divorced his gnarly ass. Now I tell my dates as little as possible. Lesson learned. |