Am I overreacting

[Anonymous]

I have to work tomorrow, so I took 5 year old DS out to do some fun stuff today so that we could spend time together, and so that DH, who will watch him all day tomorrow, will get a break. When we got home after being out for 6 plus hours, DH said, "how's things?" and then sat there reading a magazine while DS and I ate cookies and milk and played with legos. WTF? Can't he even pretend to be interested in how the kid's day was or ask him a few questions about what he did?

[Anonymous]

Sounds shitty. Do you think he was feeling left out and pretended not to miss you today?

[Anonymous]

I don't see anything wrong here unless there is more to the story.

[Anonymous]

Yes, unless there is a lot more to this story you are not telling, you are WAY overreacting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, unless there is a lot more to this story you are not telling, you are WAY overreacting.

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Yes, unless there is a lot more to this story you are not telling, you are WAY overreacting.

Well, I am certainly not running to file divorce papers over it, but I do think it is pretty crappy that he didn't make a minimal effort to interact with DS or show interest in his day. And DS asked me a few minutes ago if DH was mad at him, so I don't think I'm completely imagining things. I'm going to foget about it and move on, as long as it is a single isolated incident.

[Anonymous]

I would just chalk it up to him being a typical man.

Or perhaps he was just tired or distracted.

I would just let it go...

It's not something worth making a big stink over.

[Anonymous]

yes.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think you're overreacting.

[Anonymous]

If this is a pattern of behavior, it sucks.
If there is rare behavior, you are really lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Yes, unless there is a lot more to this story you are not telling, you are WAY overreacting.

Well, I am certainly not running to file divorce papers over it, but I do think it is pretty crappy that he didn't make a minimal effort to interact with DS or show interest in his day. And DS asked me a few minutes ago if DH was mad at him, so I don't think I'm completely imagining things. I'm going to foget about it and move on, as long as it is a single isolated incident.

Huh, this kind of fascinates me. My DH never asks about our day. Never calls our DD's during the day (or me for that matter). He also will go on business trips for a few days and never call home. He also acts like having to feed his kids dinner or having to give them a bath is such an imposition. So I guess my bar is soooooo low that I can't even fathom getting my feather's in a ruffle. Maybe this will make you feel better?

[Anonymous]

Can't he finish reading his magazine when you two walk in? Not everyone shifts gears fast and maybe he was really interested in it. It's not a referendum on how much he loves his child.

[Anonymous]

Wow, seems like the bar out here is set pretty low for dads. DH later shared that he was in a really bad mood because he had a fight with his sister on the phone, so that explains why he acted like he did. It would have been better for him to say that something was going on, but at least there is a reason other than just being a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Just the one 5 year old kid?

[Anonymous]

You are over reacting. I suppose some families share EVERY detail of their lives together, but we are not one of them.
My wife and I travel for work. Sometimes we share things with each other but many times we don't. There is simply too much activity and not enough time to talk to each other.
Maybe when we work less, we will have more time to share our lives with each other.

So when I travel, I don't really know about the things my wife and kids are doing. Many days, we don't even call each other. This doesn't mean we don't love or care about each other.

We have a great family life, but this is just a sacrifice that needs to be made when you're working hard.