Did you ever feel like you were psycho and ruining your kids?

[Anonymous]

Ugh! All weekend I've felt nuts and it's not even PMS time! I feel like I'm warping my kids when I'm bitter towards my husband for being so damned HAPPY and fun while I'm worrying about getting kids fed, homework done, and teeth brushed. Don't want to be "angry mom"! Am I alone here? Any suggestions (nice ones please - it's been a tough weekend!)?

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain. It's not who I want to be.

[Anonymous]

No, but I do feel quite ill-equipped to raise DD. I was voted most unpopular as a kid. Stuffed in garbage bins, always picked last, no prom date, etc. DD is super popular. I don't know how to be a mother to that kind of child.

[Anonymous]

Get DH more involved and don't critique how he does it (as long as it gets done). That way your happy DH is also making sure the homework gets done while you get dinner ready or double checking their teeth are brushed while you get lunch ready for the next day. Splitting the stuff will make a big difference. BUT it is important that you let him do it his way. It will totally back fire otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I do feel quite ill-equipped to raise DD. I was voted most unpopular as a kid. Stuffed in garbage bins, always picked last, no prom date, etc. DD is super popular. I don't know how to be a mother to that kind of child.

Omg. I am sorry. Number 1 I would teach your popular daughter to have empathy and maybe even reveal some of your past pain and experience.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Felt the same way this weekend. Let's blame the eclipse, hit refresh, and start anew this week.

[Anonymous]

It's funny - I have very low self-esteem as a professional, but think I'm the greatest parent in the world
Come PMS time however, my short fuse becomes even shorter, and that is the only time when DH tells me to let up on the kids a little.

So to answer your question, no. Cheer up, OP! Your kids love you even when you're less than perfect.

[Anonymous]

Yep. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. OP, I'm sure in the grand scheme of things, you are doing just fine.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this Sunday. We had a trip planned to the TOY STORE (granted, to get something for a birthday party) and the six year old started to kick off and whine about how she never gets ANYTHING, and she'll be JEALOUS, and "I AM NOT GOING. PERIOD."

And I lost it.

But we're good now--both apologized, and had a great Sunday anyway.

She's a button pusher, and apparently I have lots of buttons.

[Anonymous]

I think I had the same weekend you did OP. For some reason, I had a really short fuse. I especially felt like I was the "nanny" all weekend long. My MIL was visiting and I was cooking, cleaning, clearing dishes, driving kids to events etc., while DH was mr-relaxed-host. I finally blew up at him.

[Anonymous]

Weird...just this morning I was wondering if the kids are going to remember me as just a crabby, tired, complaining person. I hope I show more than that side, but some days I don't know...

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I feel this every day. It wears on me.

[Anonymous]

All the time. Sitting in her psychiatrist's office hearing all the things we do wrong, and admittedly cringing when I agree. I feel like I have not helped her become self reliant enough, not been patient enough, focused on work too much and given her bad adhd genes. But then I am at least getting her some therapy. My parents never did because then someone would know and that would be uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

I felt it when DC was very young but I journaled, joined supportive message boards and read self help books. Everything short of therapy - I tried to get to know myself and love myself so I could be better for myself and subsequently DC. I'm human, I have my moments still, but I'm better. It was a long, slow, consistent process but I'm happy I did it.