Having self respect is one thing....

[Anonymous]

Serious boyfriend in my 30s cheated on me and got someone pregnant. I left him even though he wanted to get married. Now he's a married, successful professional and I'm alone in my 40s. I should have forgiven him like my parents advised. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

you don't know what his marriage is like, OP. What's really happening is often very different from outside appearances. My guess? You made the right decision, and if you'd married him, you'd be unhappy. Move on, find Mr. Right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you don't know what his marriage is like, OP. What's really happening is often very different from outside appearances. My guess? You made the right decision, and if you'd married him, you'd be unhappy. Move on, find Mr. Right.

+1. May be they are happy, but it doesn't mean that the two of you would have been happy. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Once a cheater...

[Anonymous]

I am sure all the man haters @ dcum cheered on to their position: misery loves company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you don't know what his marriage is like, OP. What's really happening is often very different from outside appearances. My guess? You made the right decision, and if you'd married him, you'd be unhappy. Move on, find Mr. Right.

+1. May be they are happy, but it doesn't mean that the two of you would have been happy. Move on.

I totally agree. You made the best decision at the time. Don't second guess yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're only looking at the good times because you're lonely. He cheated without using protection. He could've continued doing the same and passed something along to you. It's never too late to find love. And I say this as a single woman.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP, I mean BF who is now married.

[Anonymous]

OP, appearances are deceptive, remember that. A seemingly "successful happily married man" is not always the true story. But even if it is, it doesn't mean your single life pales in comparison, it just means you are walking on a different path.

Marriage and kids is NOT the holy grail, contrary to popular opinion

[Anonymous]

Damn OP, get some self respect. You seem pathetic.

[Anonymous]

No you were right to leave.

You don't know how many other women he's knocked up since then, seriously.

This is called Fakebook syndrome. Hardly anyone talks about pain & suffering. All you see are smiling photos. I know men who didn't love the woman they married and post happy pictures. There is no doubt in my mind that some of those women suffer greatly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious boyfriend in my 30s cheated on me and got someone pregnant. I left him even though he wanted to get married. Now he's a married, successful professional and I'm alone in my 40s. I should have forgiven him like my parents advised. Sigh.

So he could continue to cheat on you and expose you to diesease?

[Anonymous]

He's a married successful professional, but does he cheat on his wife? Treat her well? See her as an equal? Alone does not mean worse off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No you were right to leave.

You don't know how many other women he's knocked up since then, seriously.

This is called Fakebook syndrome. Hardly anyone talks about pain & suffering. All you see are smiling photos. I know men who didn't love the woman they married and post happy pictures. There is no doubt in my mind that some of those women suffer greatly.

Facebook syndrome, good one!lol The wife with the most perfect-looking marriage on Facebook has the most cheating, selfish husband ever. When he gets caught, he blames her. She's caught him, cried to me about it, and then is back to posting "What a good man" photos of him on FB less than a week later. I used to think they were such a success story, their family. The only reason I know the truth is because I was there when she caught him most recently and she told me everything in between sobs.

Don't fall for pitying yourself.

[Anonymous]

The wife I know*