Having self respect is one thing....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No you were right to leave.

You don't know how many other women he's knocked up since then, seriously.

This is called Fakebook syndrome. Hardly anyone talks about pain & suffering. All you see are smiling photos. I know men who didn't love the woman they married and post happy pictures. There is no doubt in my mind that some of those women suffer greatly.

Facebook syndrome, good one!lol The wife with the most perfect-looking marriage on Facebook has the most cheating, selfish husband ever. When he gets caught, he blames her. She's caught him, cried to me about it, and then is back to posting "What a good man" photos of him on FB less than a week later. I used to think they were such a success story, their family. The only reason I know the truth is because I was there when she caught him most recently and she told me everything in between sobs.

Don't fall for pitying yourself.

this is why people are happier without FB.

FB, after it allowed non-college students became a pissing contest of people trying to show off their life.

Best thing I ever did was get rid of facebook and just focus on my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, appearances are deceptive, remember that. A seemingly "successful happily married man" is not always the true story. But even if it is, it doesn't mean your single life pales in comparison, it just means you are walking on a different path.

Marriage and kids is NOT the holy grail, contrary to popular opinion

Also, these days....It is increasingly enviable to be single. You have options IF you would like children, freedom, etc.
I am single and trying to adopt, FWIW. Good luck with the life you have, and do not second guess yourself or romanticize the ex-boyfriend's life. Easier said than done, I know!

[Anonymous]

Also, we don't know how OP compares to the wife. Maybe the guy is happy and faithful with the wife and wouldn't have been with OP. So I agree that OP made the right decision leaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious boyfriend in my 30s cheated on me and got someone pregnant. I left him even though he wanted to get married. Now he's a married, successful professional and I'm alone in my 40s. I should have forgiven him like my parents advised. Sigh.

Well, your choices were to be alone, or to have a relationship not only with him but also the woman he impregnated and their children.

Nothing wrong with alone. I'm married. Sometimes I'd prefer to be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No you were right to leave.

You don't know how many other women he's knocked up since then, seriously.

This is called Fakebook syndrome. Hardly anyone talks about pain & suffering. All you see are smiling photos. I know men who didn't love the woman they married and post happy pictures. There is no doubt in my mind that some of those women suffer greatly.

Facebook syndrome, good one!lol The wife with the most perfect-looking marriage on Facebook has the most cheating, selfish husband ever. When he gets caught, he blames her. She's caught him, cried to me about it, and then is back to posting "What a good man" photos of him on FB less than a week later. I used to think they were such a success story, their family. The only reason I know the truth is because I was there when she caught him most recently and she told me everything in between sobs.

Don't fall for pitying yourself.

this is why people are happier without FB.

FB, after it allowed non-college students became a pissing contest of people trying to show off their life.

Best thing I ever did was get rid of facebook and just focus on my life.

And yet, here you are. Time on DCUM is your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No you were right to leave.

You don't know how many other women he's knocked up since then, seriously.

This is called Fakebook syndrome. Hardly anyone talks about pain & suffering. All you see are smiling photos. I know men who didn't love the woman they married and post happy pictures. There is no doubt in my mind that some of those women suffer greatly.

Facebook syndrome, good one!lol The wife with the most perfect-looking marriage on Facebook has the most cheating, selfish husband ever. When he gets caught, he blames her. She's caught him, cried to me about it, and then is back to posting "What a good man" photos of him on FB less than a week later. I used to think they were such a success story, their family. The only reason I know the truth is because I was there when she caught him most recently and she told me everything in between sobs.

Don't fall for pitying yourself.

this is why people are happier without FB.

FB, after it allowed non-college students became a pissing contest of people trying to show off their life.

Best thing I ever did was get rid of facebook and just focus on my life.

And yet, here you are. Time on DCUM is your life?

DCUM is the anti-Facebook. People come here to share how miserable they are---in sexless marriages, kids are messed up, thinking about cheating, horrendous in-laws, you name it. When I come here, I feel BETTER about my life.

[Anonymous]

No OP, you should not have forgiven him. Why would you want someone who cheated on you and got another woman knocked up??!!

Shame on your folks for advising you to stick w/this loser.

Sure, on the outside it may look like he has his shit together OP.
But you do not know what goes on behind closed doors.

You have many blessings in your life that he doesn't. Trust me on this.

Stop focusing on him and move on. Don't let him control you.

The best revenge is moving on and having a successful life yourself.

And you are plenty capable of doing just that.