When the kids get revenge for mom's endless faceboasting and blogboasting and/or oversharing...

[Anonymous]

10-15 years from now I predict some young adults will be fighting back when it comes to mom's oversharing of their lives without their consent. I predict..

1.) There will be talk show segments where mommy blogger kids all grown up tell the truth about their supposedly perfect family life

2.) Some adult child of a famous Mommy blogger will Write a tell all book.

3.) Re-posts of those endless perfect photos with captions telling the truth. "Mom threatened to never let us play with the Wii again if we didn't give a cheese-wiz smile and wear these awful outfits." "Here we are at the zoo. Mom had a photoshoot for 20 minutes and then we went home."

4.) There will be kids who sue their own parents were profiting off their childhood without sharing the proceeds or they will sue their parents for sharing naked photos that ended up in the hands of countless pedaphiles.

Your predictions??

[Anonymous]

I predict you are a asshat because you use the word Mommy with an adult audience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I predict you are a asshat because you use the word Mommy with an adult audience.

The bloggers are called "mommy bloggers."

OP, I kind of look forward to seeing the flip side of these stories, though I do feel bad for the over exposed kids. It's just not appropriate to commoditize one's kids that way, and fetishizing homemaking and parenting is weird and creates an unnecessarily high bar for all parents. It's not enough to play play dough with your kids, you ought to be making your own. You can't just have meals with your family, you should be making clean food grown in your own organic garden. Your house should be clean - but friendly and personable! and you! - and coordinated, but not too, you know? So I'll enjoy seeing the kids' version.

What blog in particular set you off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I predict you are a asshat because you use the word Mommy with an adult audience.

Come on. That's not the only reason she's an asshat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I predict you are a asshat because you use the word Mommy with an adult audience.

The bloggers are called "mommy bloggers."

OP, I kind of look forward to seeing the flip side of these stories, though I do feel bad for the over exposed kids. It's just not appropriate to commoditize one's kids that way, and fetishizing homemaking and parenting is weird and creates an unnecessarily high bar for all parents. It's not enough to play play dough with your kids, you ought to be making your own. You can't just have meals with your family, you should be making clean food grown in your own organic garden. Your house should be clean - but friendly and personable! and you! - and coordinated, but not too, you know? So I'll enjoy seeing the kids' version.

What blog in particular set you off?

Great post.

[Anonymous]

My 8 yo DD is addicted to a video blog on youtube. I call it her reality TV as it features a family with 3 kids and she watches as many episodes as I will allow in a given day (or weekend now that school has started). The middle child Annie is also 8 so I can see why my DD relates to this family. The family does a lot of fun events, but I wonder about a mom who is always behind the camera versus really with the kids. An unfortunate by product is that my DD thinks our family does not do as many fun things as her fantasy family. What concerns me about that family is I can tell that they are local as I sometimes recognize things in the background and such. Do you really want your family, kids, kids names, ages, etc. out there in cyberspace?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: 10-15 years from now I predict some young adults will be fighting back when it comes to mom's oversharing of their lives without their consent. I predict..

1.) There will be talk show segments where mommy blogger kids all grown up tell the truth about their supposedly perfect family life

2.) Some adult child of a famous Mommy blogger will Write a tell all book.

3.) Re-posts of those endless perfect photos with captions telling the truth. "Mom threatened to never let us play with the Wii again if we didn't give a cheese-wiz smile and wear these awful outfits." "Here we are at the zoo. Mom had a photoshoot for 20 minutes and then we went home."

4.) There will be kids who sue their own parents were profiting off their childhood without sharing the proceeds or they will sue their parents for sharing naked photos that ended up in the hands of countless pedaphiles.

Your predictions??

There are no "famous" mommy bloggers. There are some that have a high readership with people who read DCUM, but "mommy blogger" is a niche and doesn't equal fame. I, for one, can't think of a single name when you even say the word "mommy blogger," let alone tell you who is famous.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of relative fame, the information about the kids is "out there" now and always will be. Anyone with a search engine will be able to read about sleep issues, homework issues or whatever far into the future. I have a couple of friends who are not famous in any way but post about their kids to Facebook with abandon, have literally hundreds of friends and don't use any privacy settings. I feel for the day when the kids are bullied because they wet the bed seven years ago...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of relative fame, the information about the kids is "out there" now and always will be. Anyone with a search engine will be able to read about sleep issues, homework issues or whatever far into the future. I have a couple of friends who are not famous in any way but post about their kids to Facebook with abandon, have literally hundreds of friends and don't use any privacy settings. I feel for the day when the kids are bullied because they wet the bed seven years ago...

The flaw in that analysis is these kids have already grown up in a TMI culture. Oversharing is all they know and they're not embarrassed by anything.

I do agree that the parents who post negative things about their kids -- my SIL does this, ranting about how awful my nephew is in a bid for reassurances that she's a good mom -- could cause family friction later.

But no kid is going to write a "tell-all" book about this trauma. More importantly, no publisher will publish it. I suppose the kid could self-publish in an e-book. But no one is going to buy or read it.

But yeah, if your point is that it's bad to chronicle your parenting challenges online, I agree. We're all judging the people who do this and public assurances to the commentary, we generally feel that you ARE a bad parent based on what you're telling us. I just think your notion of retaliation later is a fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Wow PP you love to deal in absolutes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of relative fame, the information about the kids is "out there" now and always will be. Anyone with a search engine will be able to read about sleep issues, homework issues or whatever far into the future. I have a couple of friends who are not famous in any way but post about their kids to Facebook with abandon, have literally hundreds of friends and don't use any privacy settings. I feel for the day when the kids are bullied because they wet the bed seven years ago...

The flaw in that analysis is these kids have already grown up in a TMI culture. Oversharing is all they know and they're not embarrassed by anything.

I do agree that the parents who post negative things about their kids -- my SIL does this, ranting about how awful my nephew is in a bid for reassurances that she's a good mom -- could cause family friction later.

But no kid is going to write a "tell-all" book about this trauma. More importantly, no publisher will publish it. I suppose the kid could self-publish in an e-book. But no one is going to buy or read it.

But yeah, if your point is that it's bad to chronicle your parenting challenges online, I agree. We're all judging the people who do this and public assurances to the commentary, we generally feel that you ARE a bad parent based on what you're telling us. I just think your notion of retaliation later is a fantasy.

And the flaw in your analysis is that these kids have grown up in a climate of oversharing and TMI, but it's completely different to have someone else, especially your parents, sharing your development, most embarrassing stories, and pictures from your really ugly phase before you cleared puberty. I don't follow any mommy bloggers well enough to know their names, but then I don't follow wrestling, either. That doesn't mean these kids and their stories aren't well known to millions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of relative fame, the information about the kids is "out there" now and always will be. Anyone with a search engine will be able to read about sleep issues, homework issues or whatever far into the future. I have a couple of friends who are not famous in any way but post about their kids to Facebook with abandon, have literally hundreds of friends and don't use any privacy settings. I feel for the day when the kids are bullied because they wet the bed seven years ago...

The flaw in that analysis is these kids have already grown up in a TMI culture. Oversharing is all they know and they're not embarrassed by anything.

I do agree that the parents who post negative things about their kids -- my SIL does this, ranting about how awful my nephew is in a bid for reassurances that she's a good mom -- could cause family friction later.

But no kid is going to write a "tell-all" book about this trauma. More importantly, no publisher will publish it. I suppose the kid could self-publish in an e-book. But no one is going to buy or read it.

But yeah, if your point is that it's bad to chronicle your parenting challenges online, I agree. We're all judging the people who do this and public assurances to the commentary, we generally feel that you ARE a bad parent based on what you're telling us. I just think your notion of retaliation later is a fantasy.

And the flaw in your analysis is that these kids have grown up in a climate of oversharing and TMI, but it's completely different to have someone else, especially your parents, sharing your development, most embarrassing stories, and pictures from your really ugly phase before you cleared puberty. I don't follow any mommy bloggers well enough to know their names, but then I don't follow wrestling, either. That doesn't mean these kids and their stories aren't well known to millions.

Yeah, it kind of does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
There are no "famous" mommy bloggers. There are some that have a high readership with people who read DCUM, but "mommy blogger" is a niche and doesn't equal fame. I, for one, can't think of a single name when you even say the word "mommy blogger," let alone tell you who is famous.

Heather Armstrong
Glennon

And I'm not even a parent (or nanny or teacher or aunt).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: 10-15 years from now I predict some young adults will be fighting back when it comes to mom's oversharing of their lives without their consent. I predict..

1.) There will be talk show segments where mommy blogger kids all grown up tell the truth about their supposedly perfect family life

2.) Some adult child of a famous Mommy blogger will Write a tell all book.

3.) Re-posts of those endless perfect photos with captions telling the truth. "Mom threatened to never let us play with the Wii again if we didn't give a cheese-wiz smile and wear these awful outfits." "Here we are at the zoo. Mom had a photoshoot for 20 minutes and then we went home."

4.) There will be kids who sue their own parents were profiting off their childhood without sharing the proceeds or they will sue their parents for sharing naked photos that ended up in the hands of countless pedaphiles.

Your predictions??

There are no "famous" mommy bloggers. There are some that have a high readership with people who read DCUM, but "mommy blogger" is a niche and doesn't equal fame. I, for one, can't think of a single name when you even say the word "mommy blogger," let alone tell you who is famous.

I can, and I have only read them a few times. Kelle Hampton and Glennon from Momastery. But they are everywhere. They are definitely famous in the mom blogs category.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regardless of relative fame, the information about the kids is "out there" now and always will be. Anyone with a search engine will be able to read about sleep issues, homework issues or whatever far into the future. I have a couple of friends who are not famous in any way but post about their kids to Facebook with abandon, have literally hundreds of friends and don't use any privacy settings. I feel for the day when the kids are bullied because they wet the bed seven years ago...

I just think your notion of retaliation later is a fantasy.

Posting things about your kids -- or yourself -- on-line has consequences. That's no fantasy.