Have to get affidavits to validate marriage in Catholic church? What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

We are validating our marriage in the Catholic Church. Don't ask me why. I am not Catholic but my DH is and I am choosing my battles wisely and I am not going to make this one of them. SO we have to get affidavits? What does this mean and who do I get them from? Should they be typed or hand-written? Relatives or friends? Co-workers? What should they say?

[Anonymous]

I recommend that you call the parish and ask for more information. They will be able to point you in the right direction much better than anyone here can. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

I did call parish and no one was there and front desk had no idea!

[Anonymous]

Try again later.

[Anonymous]

Probably just to make sure you were free to marry in the eyes of the church.

[Anonymous]

I would call to make an appointment with a priest. He can walk you through what you need.

[Anonymous]

The church probably just wants your money.

[Anonymous]

If DH wants the marriage validated - tell him to figure it out. Why are you making all the calls?

[Anonymous]

We went through the 'convalidation' process last year. Your husband ought to really take the lead here because he will need to produce proof of his having been baptized etcetera. His parents may have kept his baptism certificate or he can request it directly from the church where he was baptized.

I requested mine, but they didn't really respond until our local priest followed up and also requested it. Then we did an online survey, a follow-up interview with the same priest, friendly not an interrogation, and finally a short ceremony in front of 2 witnesses one quiet afternoon at the church.

The practical effect is mainly to be on the record with the church as being married. We did this after having kids and deciding they would do religious education catholic style because dh is CoE but not enthused about American protestant options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The church probably just wants your money.

I suggest you ignore this poster, OP, as they are so obviously ignorant of what the convalidation process is, why it is required, and what it entails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went through the 'convalidation' process last year. Your husband ought to really take the lead here because he will need to produce proof of his having been baptized etcetera. His parents may have kept his baptism certificate or he can request it directly from the church where he was baptized.

I requested mine, but they didn't really respond until our local priest followed up and also requested it. Then we did an online survey, a follow-up interview with the same priest, friendly not an interrogation, and finally a short ceremony in front of 2 witnesses one quiet afternoon at the church.

The practical effect is mainly to be on the record with the church as being married. We did this after having kids and deciding they would do religious education catholic style because dh is CoE but not enthused about American protestant options.

No, the practical effect is that you have a sacramental marriage that can only be severed by death.

[Anonymous]

I can't remember, is Catholic marriage until separated by death or is it forever? (married in the afterlife)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't remember, is Catholic marriage until separated by death or is it forever? (married in the afterlife)

Death.

Or annulment.

[takoma]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't remember, is Catholic marriage until separated by death or is it forever? (married in the afterlife)

Death.

Or annulment.

Right -- "Until death do us part". But now that you mention it, why would death end the bond between those joined by God?

Most of you know I'm an atheist, but please don't take this as scoffing; I'm genuinely curious.

[Anonymous]

takoma wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't remember, is Catholic marriage until separated by death or is it forever? (married in the afterlife)

Death.

Or annulment.

Right -- "Until death do us part". But now that you mention it, why would death end the bond between those joined by God?

Most of you know I'm an atheist, but please don't take this as scoffing; I'm genuinely curious.

The Mormons can have their marriages sealed in the temple and then it's good into the afterlife, but I think the husband still has to approve the wife joining him on his celestial planet, or whatever they call it.