Engagement Party Drama
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Anonymous
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My Nephew/Godson recently got engaged and I'm thrilled - I threw his sister an engagement party and I would like to do the same for him. Problem is the middle son married a very difficult woman (I'm being kind) a few years ago. Nobody liked her and nobody in the family threw her a party. She is in the area and now wants to throw the party with me at her house or she won't come - says she doesn't want their baby around our dogs (this just happened and I never even invited the baby and our dogs are well behaved... The last engagement party went on until well past midnight. My sister is a mess and I don't want to give into this awful bitch and neither does my nephew (who is more like a brother as my sister is 16 years older.). She has ruined many events but my sister is in the middle. What should I do?
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Anonymous
Make up your invite list. Prep everything and have everything ready to go. Tell her you think 2 parties would be so much more special. Hit send. Done 
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Anonymous
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You totally lost me OP.
Can you provide a family tree to help me sort out who you are talking about? |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Just say no. |
Anonymous
| Eh. Just throw your party. So what if she doesn't come? You said that no one likes her anyway. |
Anonymous
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This is what I would do if I were you. I would hold the event at my house, but I would arrange for someone to watch my dogs during the party. I would tell her this, and see what she says. I suspect that her issue is not really with the dogs. She wants to control the party by having it at her house.
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Anonymous
| What? No. She wants to throw the party "with you" at her house? Why does she need you? She can throw her own party at her own house. Good luck with that. You should just keep making your plans for your party and tune her out. |
Anonymous
| Is your sister the middle son's wife? This is very confusing. |
Anonymous
+2000 |
Anonymous
| Host your own party, you are by no means required to co-host with your niece. If she and her husband/baby don't want to come because of reason x,y,z that's too bad for them and they will miss the party. |
Anonymous
| They can have two parties. No problem. Just tell her that you're not interested in co-hosting and you want to host this at your home. Of course she'll be invited but if she chooses not to attend, that is certainly fine. But make it clear that you will not be co-hosting. |
Anonymous
| Host the party, tell her you will confine the dogs to a room and they will not bother anyone (heck, board them for 24 hours if you have to). Problem solved. Everyone is happy. |
Anonymous
You should confine your dogs away even if she doesn't come. They get in the way and chances are at least one guest will be allergic Unless the couple wants you to cohost with her or would rather she throw the party, clearly say you will cohost alone and thanks for the offer of help but you will be fine, she should just come and enjoy! |
Anonymous
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Family Tree (as I see it):
Sister (16 years senior, apparently a teen mom whose youngest son is OP's age; she's a mess in the middle, grandmother of uninvited baby) - Niece (Nephew-Godson's sister, former party recipient) + Not-In-Picture Nephew-in-law - Nephew (aka "Middle Son", married to party-pooper problem shrew, father of uninvited baby, henceforth not part of picture) + Nephew's Shrew - Nephew-Godson (prospective party recipient, who may or may not care about older brother's involvement and baby's invite) ... Have it at a restaurant. |